Whether a relationship was being displayed on the big screen, or if you were at a movie with you significant other, movies and relationships go hand in hand. I love movies with a big part of my heart and I probably always will, especially the romantic comedies. Growing up I wanted a Disney Original Movie Relationship. I, like many other girls, fell in love with Chad Michael Murray in 'A Cinderella Story' and I dreamed of being swept off my feet by the star quarterback. I had high expectations and ultimately, a skewed perception of what relationships were actually like. Movies have a formula, someone is misunderstood and the other happens upon them as a purely coincidental experience, but is as if it was a higher being holding them out on a silver platter. They begin to talk, they fight, they make up, and then they fall in love while the profession of love is a grand and over the top spectacle. Producers will try to throw in twists or other aspects, however most adolescent romance is made through the same formula. As for my relationship, I would love to have a movie made about it; however it would be pretty damn boring.
My first encounter wasn't what I expected. Actually, I don't recall our first interaction at all, but I know that, sadly, there was no flirtatious chase between me, a regular gal with a big dream, and the mysterious guy who was just misunderstood. Nor did I get an elaborate swoon that was everything I had dreamed it would be. It actually started with a direct message on twitter. How romantic right? And although it didn't follow the typical twitter DM standards of asking for my number or the use of the phrase "I think I've seen you around ;)" it was a sweet message congratulating me on getting into me dream school (go frogs). I took this message as a kind gesture from a friend who I had, had a class with for 2 years prior. He was just being nice and a good friend. I responded with an excited "omg thank you so much ilysm!" Just like the other friends who messaged me, I expected a polite "so excited for you" or "congrats!" and to engage in some simple small talk, however this slick kid who slid into the DMs carried the conversation all the way to a first date a month or so later. Isn't modern romance something wonderful?
As our relationship has grow, we still continue to watch tons of movies- rom-coms especially. One thing I continued to realize was the fact that my relationship was nothing like the one in movies. To this day, we've never had a fight, or a falling out and although they are destined to come in the future, fights are always the pivotal moments in a movie's plot line as they lead to a form of strength in the relationship. We built the strength by using trust, like how many other great things are started. The key thing that would make our movie boring is the fact that there is no drama. We make fun of each other, we go shopping, we take naps, and we love each other- and that's about it. Don't try to be like the movie relationships, watch movies while being in a relationship, its way more fun.
