The new year has begun and I’m sure you have the classic, “New year, new me,” phrase instilled in your brain. The new year should be about reflecting and taking time to appreciate all that came with the previous year you managed to survive through.

Many may have a New Year’s resolution that they will follow for a solid two weeks, and then slowly drift away from. It may be to go to the gym everyday, to eat healthier snacks or to cut all curse words out of your vocabulary. Though those are ideal goals, you have to be honest with yourself. Give yourself a stronger mindset rather than trying to totally recreate yourself.

Here are some ways that I hope to better myself during the new year.

Healthy habits. Instead of making the goal that you will go to the gym every day, try to pick up healthier habits rather than forceful ones. Set a goal to drink more water, get some fresh air and go for a walk, or even take the stairs rather than waiting in the long elevator line. Start with the simpler, yet satisfying things.

Forgive and forget. I’m sure you are holding a grudge from the past year. Whether it is on an old friend or just someone who gave you a bad first impression. Don’t let negative connotations get in the way of your view on someone. After all, “grudges are a perfect waste of happiness.”

Treat others the way you want to be treated. Following this cliché can go a long way. Being negative is draining. If you don’t want someone to say that to you, then don’t say it to him or her. If you would want someone to hold the door for you, then hold it for the person behind you.

Don’t let guilt control you. Guilt can be good. It shows that you have empathy for others. Guilt can also be bad. Letting guilt get in the way of your actions can tare you down. Instead of keeping the sorrowful feelings inside, accept what is, take action or make amends.

Make time for those who matter. I started the new year off with my family. Though I didn’t have a choice and might rather have been celebrating with all of my friends, I appreciated the time I had. I started the new year off with those who I love and who love me the most. If you have often found yourself rescheduling with old friends or not finding time to catch up with someone, rethink those decisions. Life is time consuming and often gets in the way, but remember those who are important and always keep them close.

"FOMO." The fear of missing out is something that no one of any age likes to feel. It can easily put you in a funk or make you feel left out. If you have the option to make time for that party, movie or lunch date, then plan accordingly.

Reflect. Don’t reflect just once. Reflect all the time. If you have done something you are proud of, treat yourself! If you have done something that you are ashamed of or embarrassed of, apologize or be more mindful of your actions. Make an effort to be the best you can be. Do what makes you happy and love all those around you.