To My Ex-Friend, I Forgive You For What You Did To Me

To My Ex-Friend, I Forgive You For What You Did To Me

While I forgive you, I won't forget about how you treated me.


To my Ex-Friend,

I thought that we would be friends forever. I thought that every moment of our lives, big or small, we would be there for each other. I pictured us celebrating our graduation together. I pictured us partying up every birthday together until we were gray-haired and in wheelchairs. I even pictured us as bridesmaids at each other's weddings. Our future as friends looked so bright and full of excitement. I was ready to have you by my side for the long haul. I just realized too late that you didn't feel the same.

Our friendship at first was exactly like the movies. We practically did everything together. Every moment together was full of laughter to the point that neither of us could breathe properly. When we walked into school we felt like we were the queens of the place. We were the dream team, the friends that made others jealous and want to be like us. It felt like the sun was shining on us wherever we went, but then a storm began to form.

You always accused me of being the reason for the way that you treated me. You always seemed to forget about me in the crowd or when we were hanging out, acting as if my presence annoyed you. Anything I would say or do would get a fake laugh or a short response. You always excused yourself by saying that I was being anti-social and the cause of your behavior. I tried to talk to you multiple times about this and how it made me feel. Yet, you insisted that it was my fault and that I was the one who should be apologizing. I heard that statement so many times that I began to be convinced that it truly was my fault. I started apologizing because I only wanted to be your friend and nothing else.

You treated me awfully, only wanting me when you were completely alone and your life was falling apart. I'm an empathetic person and you took advantage of this. You had a sob story, looked at me with eyes full of tears, and gave me a promise that you were a changed person. You knew that I had a heart of gold that always forgives someone when they wrong me. So that's exactly what I did: I forgave you. I still remember the last time you begged me for forgiveness. I missed my plans for that day when you begged me to come and comfort you because you felt like your life was falling apart. Never forget that when you were at your lowest and all your other friends had abandoned you, I was the one who was there.

After that moment, you changed for a little while and were back to being the person who I was friends with when we first met. It seemed like I had you back, but then your true nature came through once again. You broke the last straw and all of your second chances have been used up. I realize now that as a person, you only care for yourself and your own feelings. No one matters in your life but you. I was a true friend, one of the only ones that you had, but you couldn't look past your own pride and see this.

Time has passed since we parted ways and time does heal most wounds. But what you did to me still haunts me and makes me question in my current friendships if I truly am enough for them. I shouldn't have to question my worth, but that's the price I paid for my toxic friendship with you for so long. I want you to know that I forgive you for what you did to me. No, you do not get a third, fourth, or fifth chance as I will never give you that. As all stories come to an end, so did ours.


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Shoutout To My Parents For Giving Me My Best Friend In The Form Of A Younger Brother

He's not as bad as I first anticipated.


This is a story about my best friend.

I was lucky enough to have a built-in bestie from the day he came home with my parents and I immediately questioned who they stole the "creature" from.

My brother's name is Andrew and he and I have always had a catty but close relationship, which has developed into something I wouldn't trade for the world.

When we were younger we were the most jocular kids you could find and spent our days running around with our school friends shooting each other with nerf guns, hiding in every corner to leap out and give the other a heart attack.

We would hang out for hours until someone antagonized the other (Andrew was always the trouble maker) and yelled for our mom to intervene, or took out our ager by practicing our yellow belt karate skills on each other until our fake punches got to be too much and we would die laughing.

I never realized how special my relationship with my brother was until I heard how my friends talked out their siblings. My friends would endlessly complain about how much they hated their brother or sister and wished they were never born; and me, being who I am, would be shocked that they used the h-word, and tell them that they must still love them which they would relentlessly deny.

Seeing these failing relationships taught me to cherish what my brother and I have, and that is honestly the most important responsibility, and gift, I could've ever been given.

Looking back, the best childhood memories I have include him, and I wouldn't have it any other way. From founding the science club (his closet that we would do experiments in, and give our friends golf balls with their name on it as a key), to sledding down a three-foot hill in our neighbor's backyard for hours, to surfing and boogie boarding until we turned to prunes, to the endless games of HORSE we played (I don't understand how I'm still terrible at basketball), he's been with me.

Since then, our relationship has blossomed into much more than snow wrestling and movie binging; now as an adult, coming home from college is the most stress relieving and exciting time, because I know I get to hang out with my brother and talk about the most obscure things until he makes me get out of his room (because teenage angst, you know!!).

Thankfully, the required familial love has turned into a never-ending love for my best friend and little brother, and I can't wait to keep growing up side by side and to see what the world has in store for us.

ANDDDD HE'S 17 (as of the 15th)

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