I’m a 21-year-old in a Greek organization who lives in a hookup society but is secretly a romantic. Where relationships no longer exist, everyone is just looking for a good time. Even if someone does like you, they don’t want to give the relationship a title because that is when it gets serious. With that being said this is where "friends with benefits" comes in.
It is hard nowadays to try to find a relationship. In this day and age, a relationship is two people having a sexual relationship, they hang out and if you’re in a Greek org you take them to your semi or formal. However, when asked “are you guys dating?” The answer is always no.
This is what confuses me because if you are doing everything that a “couple,” does why don’t you just call each other “boyfriend” or “girlfriend?” Why must we play this little game where you don’t give each other a title because it may not seem right to get into a relationship?
We live in a world where being in a relationship can be frowned upon when you are in your early 20’s. No one wants to be in a relationship because if you are then “you are boring.” It is hard when you are living in this kind of society.
However, it is totally acceptable to be "friends with benefits" with someone. But if you think about it, you clearly like this person more than just a friend.
No one wants to go out on dates anymore. A guy will ask you to “hang out,” dates are a rare occasion nowadays. Call me old fashioned but I am the kind of girl that appreciates being taken out. It doesn’t have to be a fancy restaurant we could just sit down in a McDonald's and get to know each other, form some sort of connection.
However, that no longer exists. I can’t say that I am not part of the problem. Even if you are a romantic you have to adapt to your social settings. There have been times where I have accepted the fact that I’m going be someone's "friend with benefits" because I actually like him and just hope he will eventually cave and ask me to be his girlfriend. Let me tell you how many times that has worked for me: none.
Someone always ends up being hurt. Sometimes it is just better to be single and avoid that heartbreak because let's be honest you will get feelings for this person. And, when it ends it is going to suck. But if you’re the kind of person that doesn’t care, I commend you, because it is hard to avoid catching feelings when you’re spending so much time with them.If you ask me I honestly think there is no difference between "friends with benefits" and a relationship except the fact that the person doesn't want to publicly admit that they are with you.
