5 Ways To Live Like An Introvert

5 Ways To Live Like An Introvert

5 Ways to Spend Time Alone...And Benefit From It.

A few weeks ago I was asked “what activities do you enjoy doing alone?”

Well. That was an easy question to answer: “Everything! Most things…”

I started to respond one way and then caught myself thinking that it’s best if I don’t discount the enjoyable company of the friends I was spending time with at that moment.

I thought to myself: I can probably think of plenty things that are better in the company of others.

Of course, this is true. There are a multitude of moments and activities that are incredibly more gratifying when spent in the company of others. However, consistently being in the company of others is ultimately draining and leaves me feeling overextended. These traits have led me to understand that I identify as an introvert.

Some of us gain momentum, thrive and become energized by social interactions and settings. If this is you, then you are most likely an extrovert. The difference between an introvert and an extrovert is where you derive your energy. If you don’t lean strongly one way or another, you might be an “ambivert” meaning that you’re a fairly balanced combination of both introversion and extroversion.

I adore spending time with family and friends but at the end of a long day, spent even in the best of company, nothing sounds more refreshing than spending time alone. I think this is because I’ve learned how to be by myself and savor/enjoy being alone. The following are five ways to enjoy being by yourself as discovered by an introvert:

1. Understand that you don't always need the company of others to enjoy an experience.

Sometimes being able to take a T.O. (a timeout) and experience a moment without the influence of others is self-revealing. Go to a museum, see a movie, watch the sunrise/sunset, try an exercise class, give it a try alone. If you're feeling really daring, try eating in a restaurant at a table for one. In today's constant stimulation and virtual connectedness, it's not as common as you'd think.

2. Stay off your phone.

Piggybacking on my previous point... Put your phone away! You're not alone if you're sharing your experience with the rest of the online world.

3. Get creative.

If you're the antsy type, put your energy to good use. Go b-a-n-a-n-a-s and get creative. Buy that coloring book you've been eyeing, discover some new music and make a new playlist. If you're the musical type, you most likely already spend a lot of time by yourself or practicing on your own so keep on keeping on. Write down what you're thinking/feeling, cook something delicious, create something new-- by yourself.

4. Get to know your breathing.

If you're someone who is always tired or stressed, this technique could be a game changer for you. As humans, we need our breath (duh). BUT, how often do you actually focus on your breath? Our breathing tends to go unnoticed and becomes shallow and short throughout our busy days. Next time you have some time to yourself, practice deep breathing and use that breath to encourage energy and connectedness throughout your mind and body. Ready, set, (take deep breath and let it) GO!

5. Find your go-to.

It's possible to be surrounded by people and still be alone. Source out your go-to coffee shop, library, bench, market, you name it. My biased opinion is that people watching is one of the all-time best solo activities.

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Ladies, Strong Is Sexy, But Do It For You And Only You

Do not let anyone stop you or tell you that you can't. Soon, they will be asking you how you did it.

Humans are powerful, amazing creatures. Our bodies are capable of so many things that some may never even think as possible. Both men and women are strong, tenacious, robust organisms, but, I am here to focus on the ladies.

Strong is sexy. Power is admirable. Perseverance is desirable.

Strength should not be a sexual defining characteristic.

While running last week, I got honked at twice within a matter of minutes. After discussing the situation with my fellow classmates, the first question I was asked was, "Well, what were you wearing?" What was I wearing? Why should that have any correlation with sex appeal when working out?

Women are strong, powerful, fierce, and so much more.

We do not deserve to get ogled and drooled over when we are working on ourselves.

Newsflash; we do not work out for others, we work out for ourselves. We focus on our mental and physical fitness for ourselves, and ourselves only. The opinions of others do not matter.

Power comes from within. Over the course of a few months, my body and mind have transformed in ways I never thought I would be able to accomplish. I stronger than ever, both mentally and physically. I did not do this for anyone else, I did this for myself, along with many other women out there.

We do not put time into ourselves because somebody else tells us to.

We put time into ourselves because we are our first priority, and if you cannot put time into yourself, what makes you think you are able to put time into anything else?

You need to be strong for yourself to be strong for others. You need to take care of yourself first before you can take care of others. You need to love yourself before you can love others.

This took me a fair amount of time to comprehend. But, since I started putting more time into my personal strength, mental abilities, faith, and more, everything else in my life is falling into place more effortlessly than ever.

Ladies, do this for you.

When you focus on yourself, everything else in your life will fall into place.

DO NOT focus on the opinions and words of others. Do not listen to the small minded, they cannot comprehend your dreams.

Do not let anyone stop you or tell you that you can't. Soon they will be asking you how you did it.

Accept the support from others, thank the compliments, and listen to advice. Ignore anything that may damper your spirit. You are beautiful and powerful. You can do this.

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Stop Living Your Life With Your Eyes Glued To A Cell Phone Screen

Live life through your eyes, not through a smartphone.

I bet you are probably sitting down reading this article and partially rolling your eyes thinking that I am crazy for writing about social media and technology yet again, but just hear me out. This is not me trying to negatively speak about social media and our smartphones, as I have mentioned before, the technological advances we have today definitely do make things easier and have positive implications. However, I think the majority of us take advantage and begin to develop poor habits with our smartphone and social media usage, myself included.

I am one of those people who always has my phone, of course, but I don't like to stay connected all the time. I bring my phone with me to take pictures because I like to capture fun moments and have those as memories to look back on and I don't think that is a bad thing at all. Take as many pictures as you want, but just remember to enjoy those moments with your eyes instead of focusing on a screen the entire time.

The world you live in and the environment surrounding you are so beautiful and precious, but so many of us neglect the real-world for what we think is amazing on social media and such. It is such a time-waster and you can be so much more productive with your time just by limiting how often you use your smartphone and social media, I guarantee it.

Our phones are meant to help us stay connected with others, but in reality, I think it is causing us to drift further apart from others because no one can hold a conversation anymore in the real-world. People are too caught up in social media that they can't even spend a night out with their friends without posting on Snapchat what is going on every five minutes. How are you even enjoying your time out when you just have your face in a phone all night long?

We have been accustomed so much to the technology that people will text one another when they are in the same room, how sad is that? The worst one I see is when people are out to dinner and everyone is on their phones and not even attempting to have a conversation with those around them. It makes me sad that this is what our world has become and I am by no means innocent when I say all of these things. I recognize I do the same thing, but I have been actively working on it and sharing these thoughts to hopefully help others realize how much time you are wasting on your dumb phone instead of going out and living your life.

Remember that you are not obligated to post your entire life for everyone to see and nor should you feel that way. You don't have to post your every move on Instagram or Snapchat just because everyone else does. You have the right to your privacy and no one needs to know what you are doing at all hours of the day, and no one genuinely cares as much about your life as you may think they do.

I love Instagram just as much as everyone else, but life is much more than your Instagram feed. I try to post quotes that actually mean something to inspire others, or just simply pictures that I enjoy which is usually of the beach because that is my home. Don't post pictures just to get "likes" because you are worth so much more than a double-tap on an Instagram post.

I challenge everyone reading this, including myself, to put away your phone when you are trying to get work done. Put it on do not disturb and place it out of sight and see what a dramatic difference it makes in your daily life. I know when I am at work I have been placing my phone in my purse in a closed drawer so I can't see it and it has drastically improved my work ethic. Stop living your life through your phone screen and soak it what is physically around you. You have one life to live, don't waste it by being on your phone all the time.

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