If you're in college and are either looking for a relationship or already in one than you might be trying to figure out how to plan to hang out while fitting in personal time, homework and friends. I have been in college for 2 years and I have learned that relationships in high school and college are totally different. In high school you and your person might be almost tied to the hip, you walk to class together, go to lunch, do homework together and so on. But in college relationships are a little bit more mature and you have to understand each other's schedules. You and your person won't be able to be tied to the hip when you have completely different schedules and you want to do your homework when the other is doing something else. But it certainly can work, and it really isn't hard to make time to see each other!
1. Learn to be flexible
Sometimes you might have to alternate your plans when you're trying to find time to see them during the day. This could also mean you need to learn to be patient, your person may not always be available to see you which means you may have to wait until they are free.
2. You don't need to spend every waking moment with them
Yes, it is exciting that you can finally go to each other's rooms and not be yelled at. But remember to have your own life, don't just stick like glue to them. Go and make Saturday night plans with your friends, or take yourself out to dinner.
3. Try not to get jealous
When you're in college you will most likely be assigned group projects which mean you or your person might be grouped with a few girls or guys. Try to relax and not get jealous of them hanging out with other girls. Or if he is studying with a girl from class, unfortunately, it will make you uncomfortable but you just have to trust them.
4. Don't forget your friends!
This one kind of goes with #2, but just because you have a boyfriend doesn't mean they substitute your best girlfriends. This also goes for letting him have guy time as well.
5. It isn't totally alarming not to text all day
You and him are both in classes all day, it isn't bad if you just noticed he hasn't texted you all day. During the week you should be busy doing school work, classes, or even a club meeting.
6. Space is essential
You are both on the same campus and odds are your going to see each other more than once. Give each other some space to do what you need to do. Like I mentioned in #2, if you want a mature relationship it means that you are okay with seeing each other once or twice a day.
7. It doesn't always have to be sexual
This might be funny to you but there are some out there who only think sexual activity is the option for a college relationship...wrong. Do the simple things, watch a movie, order a pizza, go to a school event, take an evening walk, listen to music, etc.
8. Talk about whats next?
When the time comes and its near the end of the semester, talk it over with them about what your thoughts are on what you want to do with the relationship. This can be tricky with one of you is leaving and the other is staying. Ask each other if you want to be serious or that maybe distance will be too hard.
