Everyone goes through a stage in their life where they experience an unhealthy relationship. Sometimes you face multiple relationships that are unhealthy for you. I think nearly everyone goes through this point in their life. It happens to the best of us.
A lot of times it's with those closest to you. It doesn't have to be a significant other. Often, it's best friends that turn their back on you out of spite or jealousy. People easily become envious of those closest to them because they want the same life as their best friends. This jealousy and envy make them mean and cruel.
Out of the jealousy that they feel, they begin to become petty. They start picking stupid fights and petty arguments. Everything has to be about them, and if it isn't, they try to turn it around so it is. They also make you feel about your feelings that you have and any issues you're having, theirs are automatically ten times worse.
While it's very common that people go through this, and it happens multiple times, it's still a hard situation. It's especially hard when they are someone close to you and who means a lot to you. It's never easy to go through these situations with someone you love.
From experience, I think I can say it doesn't really get easier. I think you just find better ways to handle and deal with it. Dealing with these issues with my 'best friend' is extremely difficult. We've been through so much together, and we have so much history. I don't want to just let her go and move on from her simply because we're having unhealthy issues. I think it's important to remember that there's a reason why we're so close in the first place. And remember that you don't just give up on those you love. So, I will never give up on her.
I take a step back to look at the bigger picture. As we are going through a rough patch right now, I have faith that it will all work out in the end for the better. And if it doesn't, then at least I know that I had a great friend who I will always love even if we drift away from each other.
We aren't currently talking, but I think some space will truly help us grow as friends. Unhealthy relationships don't have to last forever. You just have to be strong enough to fight through the problems and mature enough to work out the issues.
I am very grateful for my best friend, even if we aren't really friends right now. And I think that it's important for everyone to know that if you truly love and care for someone, don't ever give up on them, no matter what.
The Lord has plans for each and every one of you. And if the unhealthy relationship you're in is supposed to work out, then it will for sure. Have faith in the Lord, and you'll get through anything that the devil puts against you.
