Here I am. Actual, living proof that I am the only single girl in my friend group. Fact: Almost all of my best girl friends are in serious relationships, which puts a toll on who I can hang out with when I want to, since they are busy with their relationships and their own lives. Being the only single friend is tough because you look around at all your friends being so happy, and so in love, it makes you want the same for yourself. But, because they are in relationships and they act similar as you and have the same interests, you start to think “What’s wrong with me and why don’t I have a boyfriend?”
I cannot tell you how many times I ended up hanging out with some loser guy over and over again because I craved someone else. I would look around at guys and think, “Maybe he wants a girlfriend” and I would constantly want a relationship. This desperateness and feeling of being alone nearly drove me insane. It’s so hard trying to explain how I feel to my friends when they are all happy and with a great person. This upcoming year, I will be the maid of honor in my best friend’s wedding and a bridesmaid in my cousin's wedding and I am as single as it gets and NOwhere close to getting a ring put on my finger. I am so happy for my friends and family in relationships, but my human nature takes over and I actually realize how single I am. I know that looking for a relationship is not what you are supposed to do, but it’s a mistake I have time and time again just because I feel like I should have a boyfriend by now.
You start to realize you are the only single friend when your friends start hanging out with their new boyfriends more than you and when actually hanging out becomes squeezing you in for a quick lunch or coffee date. Another problem with being the only single friend is that your girl friends are very picky in your choice in guys. Since they have been out of the hookup culture and are actually with a good guy, they have forgotten how horrible some guys can be nowadays. It’s really stressful asking them for relationship advice because they have already found their soulmate and most of the time their advice is “You deserve better!” or “You just need to wait” and as a single girl with no guy in front of me it gets harder and harder to believe them. They definitely mean the best in what they tell you and for what you deserve but as a single girl, it’s hard to believe there’s better out there when you are the only one ever alone. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE my friends and that they are happy with their boyfriends and fiancés. Words couldn’t describe when my best friend called me and told me her boyfriend proposed to her and the joy and happiness I felt for her. Another struggle I face as being the only single girl in my friend group is that I am forced to hang out with the guys ALL the time. My girl time is crunched into a two times a week meeting and my weekends are full of hanging by myself or with my guy friends. As hard as it is being the only one single, I know I will eventually have my fairy tale ending.
If you are out there and are like me and you are the only one single, we need to start rejoicing in it. Just think when your prince charming comes, you and all your friends will be so happy for each other. Also remember, just because you do not have a boyfriend does NOT mean your worth isn’t as high as your friends. Your time will come and you will eventually meet the person you are supposed to be with. As hard as it is right now, things will get better. A relationship is not everything right now. You are young and in school so just take this time being single to work on yourself and be the best version of you. Love yourself and your friends and guys will start flocking to you.
