Before I met my boyfriend, I prayed blindly for the Lord to send me a man to love. I had memorized what I thought I wanted, I longed for things I thought I needed. Spending what felt like years always praying for man who was kind, full of contagious joy, that worked hard, and loved life. I spent so much time praying for the Lord to send me the right person I forgot to go out and look. I forgot to make myself available, I went to school, I went to eat, occasionally I went to the gym, and I went home. The guys I did interact with were good friends, old flames I couldn't avoid, or they were complete strangers I happened to run in to. I finally realized this and within two weeks of actively making it known to guys that I was single; I had a date, a date with the guy who is rubbing my feet while I write this article. This is my advice for how to pray for and seek for a mate:
1. Make a list of all of your hearts desires
Genuinely search your heart and write out everything you want. Things that may seem small, are big when it comes to long term relationships. Be specific in your prayers, don't leave anything out. You really want someone who has pretty blue eyes? Better put that on the list, its not shallow, its something that you desire.
2. Pray that your partner is searching for you too
This is a big one, pray that the person you are supposed to be with is out there searching. Not only searching, but searching for the person you are and searching for the same type of relationship you are. They say the only thing you need for a relationship is chemistry and timing, so make sure you prayer for the right timing.
3. Date, flirt, and let the opposite sex know that you are interested.
If you've hung around any church for any amount of time i'm sure you've heard that faith without works is dead. While we usually categorize this under 'reasons to go to church', this is something that needs to be applied to all of your life. Especially your romantic life, if you feel called to a relationship, you need work and show God that you are ready. As odd as it may seem, going out on date is an act of faith. Faith that maybe one day that person will meet you somewhere at an altar.
So next time you pray for the Lord to send you a mate because you feel ready for a relationship, ask yourself; When's the last time I asked someone on a date?
