Yes, There IS Such A Thing As Too Much PDA
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# Call Me Old Fashioned, But What Happens In The Bedroom Should Stay In The Bedroom

## There IS such thing as too much PDA.

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One day, during finals week, I was just minding my own business in the library, studying for my Calculus exam.

I went in the "quiet section" of the library so I would be more focused and really get down to business... let's just say I was not the only one looking to "get down to business." I looked to my left, and there was this girl sitting on her boyfriend's lap at a desk.

"Whatever, it's not a big deal," I thought to myself. I looked down at my notes, and as I took a sip of my coffee, I saw the girl give a quick kiss to the guy. "Alright, you could get a room, but whatever," I thought. My pencil fell on the floor and so as I reached to pick it up, I saw that the couple was having a full-on make-out session in the middle of the library!

"You've got to be kidding me," I muttered under my breath. I personally found the entire situation really gross, and I just don't understand how people find it OK to parade their intimate relationships with the whole world as if it is some big performance.

Don't get me wrong, I am all for public displays of affection, but there is a line that people just should not cross.

You want to give your S.O. a hug? Go ahead. A quick peck on the cheek? Go for it. Want to hold hands on your way to class? Go nuts. But there is absolutely no reason your tongue should be down someone else's throat in a public place.

News flash! NOBODY WANTS TO SEE THAT!

Of course, there are certain circumstances where that is socially acceptable â€” like at a party or a club, but if I am trying to memorize what A squared plus B squared equals, or figure out an initial value problem of a separable differential equation, then I'm going to need the distance between you and your partners mouths to equal the rate at which you get off your partner's lap times the time it takes you to walk out of that library.

Everybody assumes I am that stereotypical single person who is "just jealous" and hates having couples around me... while this is partially true, I can't control what people can and can't do. I am all for people exercising their free will. You do you!

But I personally find it very rude and disrespectful when people find the need to show extreme PDA.

This excludes things like hugging and holding hands. If you are making people uncomfortable and you are putting them in a position where they need to purposefully look the other way to avoid catching a glimpse at your "display of affection," then that should be a hint that what you're doing is not suitable for a public place.

I thought it would be interesting to hear what other people had to say about the topic, so I asked around:

## Jessica, 21

"I feel like they should just do it somewhere else. If it's holding hands, whatever, but kissing a lot then it's just a little too much."

## Michael, 20

"I don't care. It doesn't bother me."

## Paige, 20

"I feel like it depends on who they are. If I know them, then it's OK, but if I'm at, let's say a mall, and I see people all over each other then it is a little weird. Holding hands is perfect and great. Hugging is great. I guess making out is the only thing that I would say 'you don't need to make out in front of other people.'"

## Billy, 28

"I'm all for affections. I'm ready to cross any line."

## Anthony, 23

"It depends on the extent. I keep PDA to a certain degree with my girlfriend. We will hold hands in public and I'll have my arm around her shoulder and give her a kiss or two, but besides that, I don't know. I've seen people become 'too much' in public and I see that other people are warier around them or feel intimidated."

## Ian, 32

"I love love. Just don't take any clothes off and it's all good. You gotta express your love."

Going off the last one, though, I love love too, but I don't love it being shoved in my face everywhere I turn.

I understand that everyone has their own free will and they have the freedom to do whatever they want and it is their body, their rules, but I just find it unnecessary and rude to walk around as if there is a magnet on your partner's and your mouth.

Call me old fashioned, but what happens in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom.

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## We Need More Than Memorials this Memorial Day

### Our Veterans need our help

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When I was a child, I used to look forward to Memorial Day Weekend from the time I returned to school after Christmas vacation. It was the yearly benchmark announcing the end of the school year and the beginning of summer vacation. It meant I was one step closer to regattas, swim meets and tennis matches.

Like so many of our nation's holidays, we've lost sight of what Memorial Day is actually about. It isn't meant to be known as the unofficial start of summer. It is meant to honor our troops and the innumerable sacrifices they've made in the name of protecting and fighting for the United States of America.

Truth be told, I would settle to a return to memorializing our troops. Israel flashes the name of each fallen soldier on television during their Memorial Day celebration. I can't remember the last time I saw anyone doing anything to honor our troops on Memorial Day.

More than memorializing, however, our country needs to take a long and hard look at the way we treat our veterans. This is an issue that has been talked about for years. Every now and then there seems to be an uptick in the outrage over how our men and women in uniform are treated both while they're actively serving and after they've been discharged. It never seems to be enough for any changes to be made to the system.

Are there public programs geared solely towards assisting our men and women in uniform? Yes, there are. Do these programs make any measurable or quantifiable difference in the lives of our veterans? Yes, they do. The qualifier is that the programs help veterans who meet arbitrarily created prerequisites. For example, in order to qualify for health benefits, you need to have an address to put down on the application. This does nothing whatsoever to help the thousands of homeless veterans in our country.

Many cite pacifism as a reason to avoid getting involved in this cause. Pacifism is a noble belief and an ideal the world as a whole should strive towards. What it is not, however, is a reason to avoid supporting our veterans. If you're a pacifist you don't have to fight in our warsâ€”a luxury that would not be afforded to you if we still lived in the era of the draft. You should be thankful that there are enough volunteers to serve in the armed forces to make the draft unnecessary. The men and women who serve are protecting each and every one of usâ€”regardless of whether or not you agree with every military campaign the USA becomes embroiled in. It is their choice to serve, but it is not their choice to fight no. This is a critical distinction. There are very few people in the country who have a say in where the military goes (the main person, of course, being the President of the United States). You don't have to like where the military is sent or the causes they are sent to fight for (or against) but refusing to support our men and women in uniform is not going to do change anything and you're naive if you think it will.

Mental health is another big concern for our nation's veterans. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (more widely known as PTSD) is rampant among veterans. Men and women return from war zones and are unable to connect with their friends and family members. They can't find the words to articulate what they've witnessed or what they endured overseas. The military, for their part, is still old fashioned (to put it kindly) when it comes to any kind of mental illness. They see it as a personal weakness and a defect that renders the man or woman suffering from it incapable of service. If you are diagnosed with PTSD or any other form of mental illness while still on active duty, you will most likely be discharged immediately. If you're lucky it will be an honorable discharge. More often than not the signs and symptoms of PTSD are ignored. When this happens, the result is often far more catastrophic and tragic than it would have been if it was caught early on. Sufferers of PTSD often lash out, sometimes violently, when they are subjected to one of their triggers (which can be something as inoccuous as a car backfiring because it sounds like a gunshot or an explosion). If an active duty member or a veteran lashes out violently because of PTSD they are criminally punished for their actions. This is both ineffective and morally wrong when you consider it may have been avoided if the sufferer had been provided with treatment.

This issue deserves far more attention than it can be given in one article. We live in a country where serving in the military is not mandatory. I for one am increibly grateful for this because I would be hopeless fighting a war. I recognize that in myself. That doesn't mean I don't need to concern myself with how veterans are treated, however. If anything, I am MORE invested in helping our veterans procure the services they so richly deserve because I am not obligated to join the military. The men and women who serve our country do so voluntarily. They put everything on the line for our safety: yours and mine. The least they deserve when they return from active duty is help securing a job (if they choose to leave the service), healthcare and a home. These are basic necessities that we all need to survive. Our men and women in uniform are doing a job that not everyone wants to do. Remembering their service once or twice a year is not enough. We need to actively care for them each and every day.

This Memorial Day Weekend, it is my fervent hope that you and your loved ones will take a moment to not only remember our fallen heros, but to do something to help our living veterans and active duty service men and women. Contribute to the Wounded Warrior Project or volunteer your time at the local VA hospital. However you decide to do it, celebrate the contribution these men and women have made to our country. What better way to start the summer season than by commemorating the very people who are the reason we have the last Monday in May off every year

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## 5 fun Summer Vacations that won't break your bank

### Enjoy the sun, relax the wallet - here are the estimated costs

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We compiled the costs related to 5 enriching summer vacations for this year in the thrifty sense:

Camping in a National Park, US:

time-lapse photography of river Photo by Hendrik Cornelissen on Unsplash

• Transportation: Round-trip gas if driving, approximately \$100-\$200 depending on distance and vehicle efficiency.
• Accommodation: Campsite fees, approximately \$15-\$30 per night. For a week, that's about \$105-\$210.
• Food: Groceries for cooking on a camp stove or fire, approximately \$50-\$100 for the week.
• Activities: National Park admission, approximately \$35 for a 7-day pass.
• Total Estimated Cost: \$290-\$545
Backpacking trip in Europe (one week in two cities, let's say Berlin and Prague)
• Transportation: Round-trip flight to Berlin, about \$600-\$1000. Train from Berlin to Prague, about \$20-\$50.
• Accommodation: Budget hostels, approximately \$20-\$30 per night. For a week, that's \$140-\$210.
• Food: Budget meals, approximately \$10-\$20 per day. For a week, that's \$70-\$140.
• Activities: Museums, historic sites, etc. can range from free to \$20 per visit. A week's worth of activities could be \$50-\$100.
• Total Estimated Cost: \$880-\$1500

Road trip along the California coast:

body of water during daytime Photo by Luise and Nic on Unsplash

• Transportation: Round-trip gas if driving, approximately \$150-\$300 depending on distance and vehicle efficiency.
• Accommodation: Budget motels or campgrounds, approximately \$60-\$120 per night. For a week, that's about \$420-\$840.
• Food: Eating out and groceries, approximately \$20-\$40 per day. For a week, that's \$140-\$280.
• Activities: Beaches are free; parks, tours, and attractions may cost \$10-\$20 each. For a week, this could be \$50-\$100.
• Total Estimated Cost: \$760-\$1520

Exploring New York City:

Empire State building Photo by Emiliano Bar on Unsplash

• Transportation: Round-trip flight, approximately \$200-\$400 depending on location and when you book.
• Accommodation: Budget hostels, approximately \$50-\$70 per night. For a week, that's \$350-\$490.
• Food: Eating out, approximately \$20-\$40 per day. For a week, that's \$140-\$280.
• Activities: Many free sites; museums, Broadway shows, tours may cost \$20-\$100 each. For a week, this could be \$100-\$200.
• Total Estimated Cost: \$790-\$1370

Volunteer abroad with a program like Workaway or WWOOF (e.g. in Costa Rica):

• Transportation: Round-trip flight, approximately \$300-\$600 depending on when you book.
• Accommodation: Often included with volunteer program, \$0.
• Food: Often included with volunteer program, but budget \$50-\$100 for eating out.
• Activities: Depends on free time; nature activities are often low-cost or free, but budget \$50-\$100 for tours, etc.
• Total Estimated Cost: \$400-\$800

water falls in the middle of green trees Photo by sterlinglanier Lanier on Unsplash

Student Life

## A College Summer Isn't Even Summer

### It's just work, work, and more work.

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I remember how exciting summer was when I was a kid. I would just be eagerly waiting for school to end so that I could fly to some exotic location with my family for the summer. Or hang out with my friends every day. Or just lay around in bed or read, paint, draw, basically do whatever.

What happened to that when I entered college?

While I definitely was counting down the days to summer, mainly because I was exhausted from the quarter and just wanted finals to end, I knew that this summer would not be full of family vacations and hanging out with my friends.

In college, summer is all about improving your resume and working on what you can do to get ahead, either in school or the job search. A lot of college students take multiple summer classes and have to deal with finals and homework all-year round. Other students study for tests like the MCAT, LSAT, and GRE, to name a few, so they're definitely not just chilling and partying.

In my case and several other students, we're working and/or interning at companies to get experience in the fields we want to pursue as well as funding our broke college bank accounts. A majority of us, including me, are back home with our parents as well, so it's much harder to go out with friends when we have to follow rules and curfews.

It is hard to squeeze in a family vacation when everyone has busy work schedules and working in different cities around the country. Even seeing your friends becomes tough. You don't get to see them every day between classes or have dinner or go out with them at night. You do the same "we really need to hang this summer!" and "I'm busy this week, how about next week?" cycle until summer ends.

Everyone's busy with their own thing and after work, you just want to catch up on sleep, watch some Netflix alone, or spend time with your family. Summer just isn't the same anymore but that's the consequence we face as we grow up and learn to be responsible, independent adults with budding careers.

In conclusion, summer is 13 weeks, which is about 5 weeks too long. It starts to feel like another quarter in school, but I'd honestly rather be studying in school than the same work grind every day and then doing nothing after it. I never realized how much I missed school and all the hell that came with it until summer came along. It's just too long of a break and disturbs my study schedule as well. I almost feel like I forgot everything about school, what classes I'm going to take, and the whole layout of my college campus.

Summer is great, but I've definitely gotten over it. Just wait till school comes along and I'll be talking about how I miss summer vacation so much.

Student Life

## Remembering the Memorial in Memorial Union

### Itâ€™s beautiful and in memory

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Sometimes it's hard to remember that Memorial Union at the University of Missouri is actually a memorial, not just a place to take a nap on a couch and get Starbucks.

Yes, the Starbucks is so convenient and the fireplace is so cozy to warm up to and study, but before all those material resources existed, Memorial Union was just a memorial.Â

Construction of the gothic tower was completed in 1926. As soon as work was to begin on the north wing, construction was stopped because of the Great Depression and the tower stood alone for 25 years. In 1963, the tower, the north and south wings, and the A.P Green Chapel was finished.Â

The goal of Memorial Union wasn't to build a place for a Starbucks. It was built as a Memorial to honor the 117 Mizzou alumni and students alikeÂ who died serving the United States in World War I. The name of these men are inscribed in the archway of the tower.

To honor these men, the tradition states that as you walk under the arch, you remove your hat and speak in a whisper. HoweverÂ I can't even remember the last time I saw someone actually take off their hat or whisper when walking through the archway.

The 117 men that died about 100 years ago are noÂ different than the active military men and women that walk through campus everyday. Next time you are walking through Memorial Union to grab Starbucks, remember the active men and women that are our friends, family and classmates. Take off your hat and speak in a whisper, and remember that the men whom Memorial Union was built for have given the same as those surrounding us everyday.Â

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## Soccer, Spain and Racism

### The whirlwind events of last week reflects the sad state of sports in Europe.

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When we think of events that have transpired in the US over the last few years, a lot of it ends up in spotlighting the division in the country. However, things across the pond seem to be no better - at least when it comes to sports. Last week, Real Madrid - arguably the richest sports franchise in the world, had one of their Brazilian strikers subject to vicious racist attacks in Valencia. The player, Vini Jr posted this example video in his Insta account:

What was worse is the player was red carded by the referee and punished for highlighting the racial abuses. It's absolutely appalling and disheartening that we are still grappling with racism in soccer in the 21st century. The beautiful game, which unites people from different cultures, backgrounds, and races, has been marred by repeated instances of racism, particularly against Black players

The pitch should be a place where skill, talent, and dedication are all that matter. Yet, we continue to witness racist behavior from fans and, at times, even fellow players or officials. From throwing bananas onto the pitch, making monkey chants, to hurling racial slurs, the experience for many Black players is stained by bigotry and ignorance.

In 2004, during a match between FC Barcelona and Villarreal, a banana was thrown at Brazilian player Dani Alves, a clear act of racial discrimination. Alves responded by picking up the banana, peeling it, and taking a bite, continuing to play the game. Cameroonian striker Samuel Eto'o, playing for Barcelona in 2006, was subjected to racist monkey chants from opposition fans during a game against Zaragoza. The player threatened to leave the pitch due to the abuse but was convinced by his teammates and the referee to stay.

And in Italy in 2019, Italian striker Mario Balotelli, playing for Brescia against Verona, kicked the ball into the stands and threatened to leave the pitch after hearing racist chants. The referee temporarily halted the game.

And what's more infuriating is the lack of decisive action from football's governing bodies. Yes, there have been initiatives to curb racism in soccer - campaigns, slogans, and even rules in place. But the lenient punishments and half-hearted condemnations do not do enough to deter such disgraceful behavior. A small fine or a partial stadium ban is hardly a strong message that racism has no place in football. Vini received almost no support from the club initially, although later Real launched an "official communicado" and the president of La Liga in fact blamed him from causing the fans uproar.

Brazil has suggested they could prosecute the Spanish citizens involved in the hate crimes

However, many former players and coaches wrote in support of Vini, and we can only hope change is coming

After worldwide protests, it finally seems Spain is taking some action: