How Much Freedom Is Too Much Freedom in College?

How Much Freedom Is Too Much Freedom in College?

Partying? Drugs? What about... piercings?

Whether you admit it or not, I'm sure that your first year of college either went really well... or really wrong.

To be fair, every student is different. You have your fair share of the studious, those who are in the library grinding day after day, passing every test, and gaining a 4.0 GPA; you have the partiers, those who go out every night, forget that they are paying an expensive tuition, and barely go to class; the athletes, those who go to class because they have to, travel for games, and work out 24/7; and those in Greek life, those who join and became incredibly philanthropic, possibly party too much, and have one big, happy family. I'm sure there are a large number of groups that I'm excluding but either way, there are several different cliques in college.

How is the transition from high school to college, you ask? Amazing! Liberating! Freeing! But the question becomes: how much freedom is too much freedom? You go from nights where you attend class 5 days a week, from 7 AM to 2 PM, your parents constantly telling you what to do, what you can and can't wear, where you can and can't go, who you can and can't hang out with, and most importantly: what time you have to be home! All of a sudden, in a short span of three months, you have all the freedom you could have ever asked for! You can stay out until 5 in the morning, you can skip all the classes you want, and you can eat out as many times as you want!

With that being said, how many students drop out of school? They can't manage their time well and as a result, they didn't do their homework, they're out partying night after night, they have no money because they keep going and eating out, the most obvious one: they skip all their classes!

I can admit, my first semester of college, I went out my fair share of times. Luckily for me, the scene got old! I didn't want to pay cover, I didn't want to buy drinks, I didn't want boys constantly groping me, and I was so tired of doing my makeup! I was raised in a strict household, my parents barely let me stay out until 10 PM! I'm currently 19 years old and my parents still don't let me sleepover whenever I come home!

Rather than going "wild" and continually going out night after night, I went wild another way! While I definitely am not saying that this is a better option or that everyone should do this too, I definitely love how it changed me!

What did I do, you ask? Well, I went piercing crazy! My parents hold the strict belief that anything other than your first holes (in terms of your ear) is body mutilation! While I have always wanted a belly button piercing, I would never get one while living with my parents. If they knew that I had one then they really might make me drop out of FSU and come home! One night I got my belly button pierced at Empire Tattooz on Pensacola, and ever since, I've been hooked! I have gone back on separate occasions to get my second holes pierced, then my third holes, and last but not least, my industrial! I came into my freshman year of college with two piercings and I left with nine!

Fun fact: My parents still have no idea! Hard to believe that they don't notice a large bar through my ear (the industrial) but lucky for me, they're completely oblivious!

So just remember, there are other ways to rebel in college, or "go wild." You don't have to party or do drugs! At least with piercings, you don't have to worry about being hungover or about boys creepily following you around!

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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