Yes, I said possibly. These are a few ways to know you have possibly found the guy you're supposed to be with and that's because I'm only twenty. I'm pretty sure I haven't met "The One," and I'm sure a lot of other twenty year olds haven't either. But I do know this: if a guy you like has most of these qualities (I say most because, come on, no ones perfect) he's definitely worth your time and that's important because right now, your time is precious. College is the time to be independent. It's four years out of your life when you are only responsible for one person, yourself. It's the time where you should live it up with your friends, make the grades and attempt to find out who you are as a person. When you get to this point in your life relationships should be meaningful and you shouldn't waste your time with the wrong guys. Especially when you know what you deserve.
So here is how you know you have found the one, maybe, or at least a good guy that is worth your time.
He will make an effort.
This guy will take you on a real date. No, I don't mean take you to a dining hall to use your meal swipe. He'll take you to a restaurant that doesn't require a student ID. Enough of this “Want to come over my house and watch a movie?" bullsh*t. We all know what that means. Now don't get me wrong, I know we all love just hanging out on their couches and watching movies, but that's after we get to know them better. Boys don't understand that we aren't asking for a four-course meal at a five-star restaurant. All we want is for them to be a little old school and it's really not that hard to be. Take us to a diner to get a burger, and I'm sure that'd make most of us happy.
He will be a gentleman.
The hookup culture that has consumed college campuses makes actually getting to know someone pretty difficult. Sometimes it's hard to separate the guys that actually like you and want to get to know you better from the jerks that have other intentions and do not. The right guy will be a gentleman. He'll have manners and will be respectful of you and your values. He'll get to know you, ask you questions about your family and stuff that matters to you, and he'll like you for you. Your smoking hot bod that comes with your smoking hot personality is just a bonus. If your mom loves him, you know he has the gentleman quality.
He will bring out the best in you.
The person you are with should bring out the best in you, that's the point of being in a relationship with someone. This guy and this relationship should bring out the best side of you and make you a better version of yourself. The happier, funnier, self-confident version we know we all have, we just don't show sometimes. Well this guy should naturally bring that side out of you.
He will challenge you.
Let's face it, we're girls, we need a little bit of a challenge, or we get bored way too easily. Who wants to be right all the time? Well us, which most of time we are. But a guy who challenges you and keeps you on your toes will always make the relationship more fun and exciting.
He'll make you laugh.
He doesn't have to be a comedian, but a healthy relationship should be filled with lots of laughs because those are the moments that turn into memories. And as a college student life can be stressful most of the time, so you definitely need a guy who will make you laugh and that will sometimes help you forget about all the stress that comes with being a college student.
Your friends will become his friends.
Your friends are your family away from home when you're in college. They will be filling in for your mom and dad when they meet this guy for the first time. That means they're going to be intimidating and protective like your dad. They'll be excited, a little nervous and proud (if he's cute) like your mom. Basically, if your friends love him, and he fits right in with your crazy group after only a few weeks of dating, then it's obvious he's a keeper.
He'll give you space and let you be independent.
Sometimes you just need alone time, and sometimes you just want to hang out with your friends, and he will understand that. He'll give you space when you ask for it, and even when you don't, because he has friends and a life outside of your relationship too. He'll be protective of course, but will let you do your own thing because he trusts you.
But he will always be there when you need him.
As girls, we can be needy sometimes, and this guy will always be there for you, no matter what. Whether you fail a test or get in a fight with your friends, he'll always be there to do whatever he can to make the situation better, even if that means just being a shoulder to cry on.
Finally, he'll like you for exactly who you are.
Most importantly he will fall for you, for just being you. You should never change for a guy no matter how hot, smart, athletic and great he is. He'll like you for the person you are, and the person you want to become. You are worth a lot, and this guy will see that from the very beginning.
So there it is, what I believe "The One" will be like. But who really knows? When I find out for myself, I'll write a sequel and let you know. But until then, enjoy being single because you have the rest of you life to be with Mr. Right.
