Heartbreak sucks right? You think things are going to go a certain way with someone and when they don't you're absolutely crushed. It's like someone took your heart out of your chest and stomped on it. I have had my share of them over the past few years and every single one made me feel worse about myself. I kept thinking "what's wrong with me?" and questioned why it had to happen. I was never quite confident with myself, so each one was a hard blow to my self-esteem. Until I was tired of crying all the time and I decided to do something about it.

I chose to look at the bright side of things even if it was difficult. Looking back on all the memories I shared with the person I was the happiest I've ever been. I was my complete self and I didn't have to pretend to be something that I wasn't. I'm so thankful for that because it helped me grow into the person I was meant to be.

When you get your heart broken, especially when someone doesn't like you back it's easiest to point out all your flaws. You start wondering,

"What if I was blonde?"

"What if I was smarter?"

"What if I was more outgoing?"

It's not healthy at all, so I stopped doing it. I realized that the person meant for me will accept me for my flaws and I will accept them for theirs. Even if I was taller, had a different hair color, or was a different size, it wouldn't stop the connection from happening.

Of course, there were probably aspects of yourself and/or your partner that contributed to the heartbreak. You're both human (I hope) and that means that sometimes you're going to mess up. But, whatever it was, forgive them and yourself. Remind yourself that you deserve to be loved. Being kind to yourself and the people around you is really important.

I read something recently that said "if you had this love for the wrong person, imagine how much you will love the right one" and it really stuck with me. Heartbreak made me realize that I don't want to settle. I know it's easier said than done but hopefully this helps you love yourself through it.