I'm not a housewife woman and that is okay.

At a recent family get together I heard, "Yes you'll be settling down and getting married before you know it." Why is this always something that is said?

Why are women expected to be the housewife who has dinner in the crockpot all day, has all the laundry folded every Sunday, and has a calendar with all the doctor appointments on the fridge?

What if I don’t want to be the housewife? What if I just want to be me? I am my own independent woman and that’s who I want to be.

I don’t want to be labeled as the housewife. There isn't anything wrong with people one either. I admire you women - it’s just not what I want for me right now. I want to be labeled as the traveler, the go-getter, the one who is always with friends, and the one who loves hanging with her family. I want to be my own person before I am someone else’s.

I aspire to become this woman that can handle her own, cook her own dinner or call in Domino's and feel like its perfectly acceptable. I will be the woman who can leave towels unfolded because in reality we just unfold them again? I want to be the one who scribbles doctor’s appointments down on a sticky note. I don’t want to be the housewife who has her shit together ALL OF THE TIME, who cooks for her husband, who organizes the kids play dates. I want to be my own hot mess express because I can be.

I am independent, sometimes too much for my own good. I realize everyone should aspire to have a family of their own, a husband/wife, kids, but what if that isn’t my number one priority. That should be ok. I feel that our society looks down on women who don’t crave the norms. I don’t crave them. I crave happiness, laughter, and love for myself before anything else.

I want to wake up and be able to pack my bags for a week long trip with no worries, simply because I can. I don’t want to discuss bills with someone else or worry about conflicting schedules. It may be what some girls want and if they do - great. We all want different things, but I do not want that. I don’t want to be the typical housewife.

I can’t wait to start this adult life completely on my own. I want to do what I want to do when I want to do. If that makes me selfish, than so be it.

I deserve happiness. I deserve to belong to myself and no one else. I deserve to be anything but the housewife in her 20’s, simply because that’s what I want.

I’ll be sipping on my cocktail and planning cruises, while you all make your dinner for four and pack practice bags and lunches.