Let me preface this by saying that safe sex is so, so important and it is even more important to be on the same page with your partner at all times. Talk about what you both agree to be "safe" and follow through on it.

"No glove no love" or something, right?

Ladies, let's talk.

I had a conversation that went a little like this with a recent hookup:

Me: *Explains that I didn't appreciate how we engaged in an activity where he refused to wear protection and then brushed it off as an "accident"*

Him: "Okay, and?"

Okay, and? Seriously. Uh-oh. Here we go.

First of all, I respected him enough to do anything in my power to make sure we were absolutely as safe as possible. After that, he acknowledged my efforts, but then didn't follow through on what I presented and didn't use the protection that I bought.

What's up with that?

Does not value his freedom enough? Is he trying to have a child?

I didn't think so. And neither am I.

Which is why it baffles me so much that he disrespected and disregarded me so easily.

But, that brings to my attention that this happens all too often. And we need to talk about it.

Ladies, if a boy refuses to wear protection and makes up an excuse as to why he "can't" that is inexcusable. There are one million options for you to engage in safe sex. Even if you are using other forms of birth control and want him to put other protection on in addition to using other methods, he should do it.

Why?

Because, regardless of what else you are using, what you want when you have sex or hookup or "make love" or whatever you call it is what you want.

No one can tell you differently.

If some fuckboy tries to convince you otherwise, they are just that: a fuckboy.

Get rid of him if he doesn't respect you. Even if he seems like the best guy in the world and he fails to listen to you and respect you when you are being intimate, he doesn't deserve a single second more of your time.

Boy, bye.