Humans have a natural inclination to observe the behavior of others. It's the way we learn about, and process the information about the world around us. We simply do this in order to adapt to and fit in with our environment. Monkey see monkey do, and humans are no exception. We try so hard to be the same as others around us, however, nothing is easier than being oneself.

Whether it's going to a new school, starting a new job, or meeting someone new for the first time, we always go into a situation thinking there is a specific way we should act in order to connect with the people around us. As humans, we are just so afraid of being alone. Being alone for a long time, it drives us to insanity.

This subconscious yearning to fit in transcribes into the digital world as well. The media paints a picture of what we are supposed to look like, act like, and think. We then feel the need to follow those social guidelines.

However, no one in the real world, or digitally, stresses the importance of self-love.

We focus so hard on the external and very rarely take time to appreciate the internal. Often times, it's just too hard to relate to the people around you, so the best you can do is act cordial and do your own thing. Not everyone or everything around you is going to vibe with you the way something else might.

In that case, it's important to realize that at the end of the day, you're all you have. Many people struggle with likings themselves and they prefer the company of others, and this is the root issue. It's all about learning to be comfortable with oneself.

It all comes down to the idea of whether or not we spend enough time with ourselves. It's okay to spend a day in just sleep and pamper ourselves. It's okay to miss out on going out with friends to read a book and drink some tea. It's okay to simply take a break from the world every once in awhile just to get to know ourselves.

It's okay to not be everyone else.

The more time we spend alone, the more we get to know ourselves. No one is proud of their flaws, and many people are not proud of the people they are. Spending time with ourselves is also the best way to get to know our strengths and weaknesses. The more knowledgeable we are about who we are, the closer we come to internal acceptance.

The closer we become to the person we are, the more comfortable we will be in situations and people we are unsure of too. We can then correctly assess how our personalities can stand out instead of blend in. Even if we find ourselves in situations where we need to leave for the sake of our sanity, only then can we find comfortability in our silence.

For our own good, it's essential to find a home in ourselves. At the end of the day, we're all we have anyways.