To All High School Seniors Stressing Over College Apps

To All High School Seniors Stressing Over College Apps

You will be rejected. However, don't let that rejection letter determine who you are.

My friend told me the other day when she was patiently waiting for her early results to come out that the whole college application process seems a lot like dating. You might like a certain college more than the others but that college may not like you back. Or there might be colleges that would be willing to give you a full ride, but you simply might not care about their acceptance letters. Despite the miscommunication, ultimately everyone seems to find a place to call their new home when senior year comes to an end.

Yes, the college application process is the most stressful thing on earth, especially because it increases our uncertainity about what future has in store for us. And it's completely fine to feel uncertain, anxious and unstable. So high school seniors, I am not going to tell you that everything is going to be okay because let's face it, we know it's not going to be okay. You will face rejections, you will be waitlisted and you will be deferred. Life is tough. However, don't let those rejections, deferrals, and waitlists determine who you are. Just because you received that rejection letter, don't think your life has been wasted. The college application only reflects a small portion of who you are-- I mean how can you summarize your entire life in just one to two essays? A rejection letter does not mean that you are not good enough, it just means there are too many applicants and too little space for all the talented people. So they go through a very random selection process to filter people out.

Looking back, the college application period was a time when my self-confidence plummeted the most, felt utterly insecure and uncertain about my future and experienced an emotional crisis, especially when I had to keep a straight face after hearing my friends get into the schools that I was rejected. But in the end, after the grueling process, I ended up matriculating to a place that was the best fit for me.

So seniors, I know this is the most stressful time of the year, and trust me, it's going to get worse, but stay strong, stay confident and don't ever ever let the college that rejected you to decide what kind of person you are. Be open to opportunities. You may end up liking a college that you didn't even think that seriously about- that's what happened to me.

You are a lot more awesome than you think.

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Happiness is having the best aunt in the world.

I know I don't say it enough, so let me start off by saying thank you.

You'll never understand how incredibly blessed I am to have you in my life. You'll also never understand how special you are to me and how much I love you.

I can't thank you enough for countless days and nights at your house venting, and never being too busy when I need you. Thank you for the shopping days and always helping me find the best deals on the cutest clothes. For all the appointments I didn't want to go to by myself. Thank you for making two prom days and a graduation party days I could never forget. Thank you for being overprotective when it comes to the men in my life.

Most importantly, thank you for being my support system throughout the numerous highs and lows my life has brought me. Thank you for being honest even when it isn't what I want to hear. Thank you for always keeping my feet on the ground and keeping me sane when I feel like freaking out. Thank you for always supporting whatever dream I choose to chase that day. Thank you for being a second mom. Thank you for bringing me into your family and treating me like one of your own, for making me feel special because you do not have an obligation to spend time with me.

You've been my hero and role model from the time you came into my life. You don't know how to say no when family comes to you for help. You're understanding, kind, fun, full of life and you have the biggest heart. However, you're honest and strong and sometimes a little intimidating. No matter what will always have a special place in my heart.

There is no possible way to ever thank you for every thing you have done for me and will continue to do for me. Thank you for being you.

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College Can Be Difficult, But Trust Yourself, Girl

Life can throw you curveballs sometimes, and times can get tough, but it is SO important to pick yourself up and trust that you can do anything.


I'll be honest, this school year was one of the hardest years of my life. There were lots of moments throughout the year that I just wanted to go home and get away from it all. I had to be reminded that I have been raised to try as hard as you possibly can, and I was doing that. It took some determination and time, but I didn't give up.

No matter how bad I felt, I stayed and persevered.

Now that I am home for the summer, I have been reminiscing on the past two semesters of school. At the beginning of the school year, I had a much different idea of how it would go. It was going to be "my year," but somehow while the year was going on, I felt that I had been completely wrong. It's easy to come to quick conclusions when life doesn't exactly go your way. Conclusions like "this year has been the worst year ever" and "I can never get a break" were often popping up in my head. My grades weren't where I wanted them, and I was surprised by a lot of occurrences that I never expected to happen (imagine a wild ride). I found out who my true friends are and who I could rely on, and luckily, my circle only grew. Being extremely extroverted, it was hard for me to get out and just do something. Being in this "rut" took a toll on me. I had to make those hard decisions about doing what was best for me in the long run instead of doing something just for the moment. Trust me when I say, this was NOT easy at all.

Through all the tears and change all around me, I decided to proceed to the finish line because I am NOT a quitter.

I decided that it was time for me to allow myself to fully, undeniably be me. I wanted to start doing the little things I enjoy again like working out, taking pictures, and simply just going out to do anything. I started forcing myself to take any opportunity that came my way, and it helped. One of the things that brought me so much joy was kickboxing – talk about therapeutic, people! Kickboxing at least three times a week helped my mood shift so much, and it was a start to seeing me again. I am so blessed with friends who would come over at, literally, any time of the day. Spending time with them helped me more than they could ever know. We did anything from just hanging out in my living room to splurging on a fun dinner. Through everything that I was doing daily, I was learning how to rely on myself. Looking back now, I have never really had to know what it felt like to rely mainly on myself. I did get so much help from my family and friends, but what good could their help do if I didn't want to help myself first?

Even though I felt like this was one of the worst years of my life, it taught me so much more than I ever expected. Looking back now, I grew so, so much. I learned how to smile when times get tough. I learned that it really is okay to not be okay sometimes, and it will be okay eventually. I learned that it's okay to ask for help because we weren't made to do life alone. Most importantly, I learned how to trust myself. My hope for anyone reading this, you will learn from my experience that the worst seasons get better. I am in such a good place right now because I never gave up, and I will continue to never give up. In a short amount of time, I am seeing how far I have come and how much I grew.

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