I think every girl has had the line “He's just not that into you” in the back of their mind when the guy they are dating suddenly stops being as interested as he used to be. He doesn't text or Snapchat you as often, and then, he stops contacting you altogether. You're wondering what went wrong, and start over analyzing yourself, and the once hopeful relationship.
It is hard not to get your hopes up, when everything seems to be going right on your end. As a result, you make up excuses of why he hasn't contacted you. All of these excuses that you make up in your head, are actually crap. The thing is, he is actually not into you. There, I said it. This simple sentence actually changed my life, and I recommend any girl who is dating, or in a relationship to take the time to read this. After reading the book “He's Just Not That into You,” failed potential relationships actually made sense. I stopped over-analyzing every guy, and told myself, that maybe this guy doesn’t really like me.
Not every cute guy that crosses your path is going to like you, and that’s okay. Even if you are texting non-stop, and he takes you on dates, he could still not even like you. That’s insane right? I know. Before you start picturing yourself meeting his parents, and future date ideas, take a step back and look at the signals that this guy is giving you.
If he is snap-chatting you at two in the morning to come over and “cuddle,” he is probably not into you. Nothing good can come out of a text after midnight. The only things that are open are: the emergency room, and Taco Bell. Just say no! Unless it’s Taco Bell, say yes, because who can’t resist Taco Bell?
If you can’t tell if he’s into you, or where the relationship is going, it is not going anywhere. Why would you want to date a guy you can’t figure out? If a guy is really into you, nothing will stop him from contacting and from spending time with you. There are zero gray areas.
I used to settle for late night Snapchats and mixed signals, because well, I thought that these guys were into me. To my dismay, they were not. They were either just bored or lonely.
Every girl deserves someone who cannot get enough of you, and does not make you question if they like you or not. Never settle for someone who makes you feel this way about the potential relationship. In this generation, I feel like girls have forgotten their worth. Girls will flaunt themselves on social media, or dating sites like Tinder, just to receive attention from a guy. This is something that does not have to be done. Instead, show him how smart you are, or how you care about certain issues that are affecting our world today. Let him know your passions, dreams, and goals for the future. Let him inside of your mind before anything else. If you do not respect or love yourself, then how is anybody going to respect you? Self-love must come before anything.
Until you find the guy who knocks your socks off: stop whining about how you don’t have a boyfriend, how you don’t have a date to some cute seasonal outing, or a valentine’s date. Instead focus on yourself, go to the movies alone, treat yourself to a movie, go shopping, or catch up on homework. Enjoy being single and make memories with your girlfriends, those are the memories that will be cherished for a lifetime.
