How You Know That You Are In A Healthy Relationship

How You Know That You Are In A Healthy Relationship

There should be more loving than fighting


I honestly hit the jackpot when I found my boyfriend. He is my best friend and is always my #1 fan and my motivation for so many things in life. I have learned more about love with him than with any other boy I have dated. Although I am his first girlfriend ever, he knows how to handle my crazy and love me endlessly.

First off, you always have to make sure that you are loving more than fighting. I think that it is so important to know that every couple fights. Love will never be easy, and fighting will be inevitable. Going along with that, it is super important to realize how you fight with your partner. This may sound odd, but it is super important. Does your partner yell? That's fairly normal. Does your partner punch holes in the wall? Not so much. The severity of your partner's anger says a lot about how they will treat you in the long run.

Of course, when my boyfriend and I fight there can be yelling every once in a while. But, we usually come to a conclusion and an agreement by the end of it. The best advice I have ever received was that you must never go to bed angry. This has been something that I am still working on even now. There is nothing worse than falling asleep angry and waking up even more infuriated.

Trust. I know this is hard for so many people, including myself. Over the past year, I have seen just how important it is to trust your partner and receive the same back. A relationship without trust will never last. It is most positively the backbone of every relationship. It takes a long time to build, and an even longer time to rebuild. Nonetheless, it is pivotal in any relationship.

Next, is fun. How much fun do you have together? It seems impossible to be with another human that you cannot have fun with. It is so important to take time out of your busy schedule to have a date night every week. Now, of course, this doesn't mean that you have to break the bank. Some of the best date nights that my boyfriend and I have been making dinner together, sipping wine, and watching a movie in our sweats. The biggest thing is making sure that you are having fun when you are doing mundane things. As long as you are with your person, even grocery shopping will be fun!

Lastly, affection and affirmation. I couldn't live without either of these things. Cuddling is scientifically proven to improve relationships. It is so important to be hugged and kissed and told how loved you are. It is so important in maintaining a healthy relationship. I mean who doesn't like to be told they're cute?! Affirmation can come in many different forms, but my favorite is verbal. It makes me feel secure and safe, and it is the best way to bond a lot of the time.

Overall, no one can tell you if your relationship is healthy or not. It is completely up to you to reach a conclusion upon. Some of these signs may just be personal requirements, however, none of these things can hurt. At the end of the day, as long as you and your partner and happy and thriving when you are with one and other, the future sure is looking bright.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.

I was never really big on cocktails. Tequila soda is always a go-to drink for me because of its simplicity and, to be honest, lack of extra calories from mixers chock-full of sugar, chemicals, and other unknown ingredients. I like tequila, and like to be able to really savor it.

This all changed when, a couple of years ago, a friend of mine made me a margarita from scratch — no funky mixers involved — and it tasted incredible. It was light, refreshing, and complemented the tequila without overpowering it.

Keep Reading... Show less

I was blessed with thick, full hair up until my late teens. At the time, I cursed my hairiness — this was before full eyebrows became trendy or cool, and were instead a point of bullying many of my fellow full-browed teens can relate to.

Later in my 20s, hormonal stability was something I was thankful for, though a major side effect ended up being hair loss — on my head, lashes, and brows. I now find my filling in my brows on an almost daily basis. As much as I enjoy toying with and testing out different brow-filling products, it'll never be quite the same as being able to have "I woke up like this" full, Gigi Hadid-esque brows.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

May Is Mental Health Awareness Month, A Reminder We Need Even More In Quarantine

You're going through something brand new — that's worth talking about.

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. This isn't new to 2020, but oh man, if we ever needed a reminder about the importance of mental health, now is the time. With different states all over the place in regard to stay-at-home orders, phased reopenings, and a "new normal," we're experiencing conflict, fear, changes, and unknowns that can easily trigger mental struggles we already have or spark feelings we've never had before. Yes, May is always Mental Health Awareness Month, but in quarantine, that need for positive mental health is taken to a whole new level.

Keep Reading... Show less

Everyone is LOVING "Outer Banks," as you've probably heard. And if you haven't caught the hype for the show yet, these articles will definitely give you a taste of what you're missing.

If you already have seen and fallen in love with the teen heartthrob crew, you need to get on board with some of these theories for season two!

Keep Reading... Show less

These 11 Face Masks On Etsy Support Small Businesses While Fighting The Spread Of Coronavirus

We're staying safe as states start lifting lockdown guidelines.

I, like most people who have had the luxury of being able to stay at home during this time, haven't spent much time outdoors at all. But when I do brave the great outdoors for a walk or to get to the grocery store, you won't find me without a mask.

My family and I were lucky enough to have family friends who were sewing some and had extras to give to us, but most of my friends and loved ones outside my immediate family have had to order some (or make a makeshift one out of scarves or bandanas).

Keep Reading... Show less

13 Reasons We're Using Quarantine As The Ultimate Excuse For Online Shopping This Month

The one thing we haven't distanced from is our bank account.

Throughout quarantine, I've been FaceTiming most of my friends in a full turtleneck or the go-to cozy sweater I keep wrapped around the chair in my room. Either way, I always have tea in my hands to keep myself warm — till this past week.

For most of the country who hasn't had the luck of quarantining in 90-degree weather on their family's lake house or with a backyard pool, things began to change this month. Our favorite shows came out with summer seasons, the sun came out, and we started spending more time outside.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments