Alright, let's face it, some girls are destined to always be in relationships and some of us aren't. There are some girls out there who found their soulmate in kindergarten, back when boys would pull your hair or steal your crayons just to get your attention. I like to call them the early bloomers.
Then, you have your late bloomers, who didn't necessarily have that high school sweetheart, but when they got to college, things just fell into place. I know who they are, you know who they are, and to be honest, everyone knows who they are.
But then there's us. The I-cant-seem-to-find-a-guy-who-wants-to-get-serious group. Correction, we are the I-cant-seem-to-find-a-guy-who-wants-to-get-serious-YET group. There it is, the painful word that we are all tired of hearing. "You'll find him, just not yet," or "maybe you haven't explored enough of your options yet." We hear it so many times that we eventually tell ourselves we'll be single forever. For those of you don't have any faith in a happy ending, here are a few things that might put your mind at ease.
6 reasons why you don't have to find your husband in college.
1. You already have 500+ things to do!
College is demanding, especially if you're a hard-working student trying to get good grades. Being a full-time student is not easy, and yet we're expected to do that on top of maintaining a social life and finding time to sleep. And do you ever have those days where your schedule is so jam-packed that you don't even get to take a nap? Imagine trying to squeeze an hour of "trying to find your husband" into that schedule. Personally, I'd rather keep my sanity and my naps.
2. There are more than 7 billion people in the world. How many people go to your school?
Think about it, when you attend a college or university, no matter the size, you are surrounding yourself with a very small sample of the world's population. Maybe the reason you haven't found your future husband yet is because he isn't even there. Open up your options! Take the time now to figure out what you like and dislike in a partner and leave the difficult search for the future.
3. Give yourself time to be independent!
Have you ever wanted to travel? To explore? Don't you want to have the chance to do those kinds of things when you finally graduate from college and make enough money to do so? While this may not be everyone's dream, it may be yours. Give yourself the option to embrace your independence. It isn't necessary to find a man and tie yourself down to him so soon.
4. Maybe you just aren't looking.
Everyone automatically makes the assumption that single girls are looking to get into relationships. Doesn't it ever get annoying when you go home for the holidays and your relatives are always grilling you about your love life? The common response is always, "No, I haven't found anyone yet." But maybe you really just aren't looking, and that's okay to admit! You don't have to be in a relationship and you don't have to have a juicy love story to share at family gatherings. You aren't in a relationship and you aren't single. You just aren't looking.
5. Maybe you are looking.
Sometimes, and I wish I knew why, looking for things can actually make them harder to find. It's an unfortunate fact, but it is a fact. If you make it your goal to find your husband on your way to class, the likelihood is that you're only going to find disappointment. Looking for true love has a tendency to leave you in situations where you think you've found the one, when really you've just found someone. If you ever find yourself feeling down because you haven't found him yet, remember that it means he hasn't found you either. He's looking for you too, so give yourself the chance to be found.
6. College is the time to have fun!
Personally, I find boy drama to be stressful. I know that people say that the "can't eat, can't sleep" feeling is the greatest sensation in the world, but it isn't! Who doesn't want to eat or sleep?! Being stressed out leads to health problems and emotional breakdowns, and who really needs that? Go out on the weekends and have a good time with your friends. Make memories and take tons of embarrassing pictures. Eat a ton of disgustingly unhealthy food and spend the entire next day complaining about it. The stress can come later on.
So take a deep breath and RELAX. You're going to get your happy ending, but it doesn't have to happen right now. Who knows, maybe you'll meet your future husband tomorrow or maybe you won't. Maybe, he's the kid who sits behind you in your night class. Maybe he's living on the other side of the world contemplating his own love life. But hey, maybe he's not. It doesn't matter. What matters is what you are doing now. Are you having fun? Studying hard? Making the most of every day? If not, re-read this article and then go out and change something about your lifestyle. Make yourself your own priority every day.
