I’m an ADPi and I am not a sorority girl.
Sorority girl (n). Most of the time when someone hears that term, the thoughts that follow it are not positive. I turned to Urban Dictionary to see what others thought of that term in particular and it made me want to hate myself at some of the answers. "High maintenance, spoiled, materialistic, rich, too skinny and unintelligent.” Keep in mind: I picked the nicer terms on the list. As insulting as those terms are, I would like to address the most insulting term of all: “girl.”
We are not girls.
If we are speaking in developmental ways, we are women. We stopped being girls about six years ago. “Girls” would imply we are immature, self-absorbed and strive off tearing each other apart. We are women who are passionate about our philanthropy and bettering others’ lives while simultaneously enriching our own. We are women who respect other women, especially our sisters. I don’t know if I can speak for everyone, but when I look at my sisters, I can’t find one thing I would use to tear them down, nor would I want to. Girls compete with each other — women empower one another.
I could continue to rebuke every other term I listed above, but I believe that when you argue girls vs. woman, you cover a majority of the terms listed. While I could choose to believe the labels people put on us sorority “girls," I pity the people who choose to waste their time and energy hating “girls” that do not exist.
There is a saying that we sorority women often like to say, “From the outside looking in, you can never understand it. From the inside looking out, you could never explain it.”My advice to everyone on the outside, take a chance to get to know sorority women and gain some knowledge on us. You may just find out that we aren’t so bad after all.
