Create Your Own Happiness Because No One Is Going To Do It For You

Create Your Own Happiness Because No One Is Going To Do It For You

Being positive is a state of mind and having the mindset of making the best out of every situation changes your life.

The greatest piece of advice I would give to some is to have the ability to create your own happiness.

Being able to create your own happiness is the most important thing you could do for yourself. Happiness starts from inside you; it is a state of mind and a way of life.

Others add on to your happiness, but you need to start it on your own. Your happiness will shine and will draw others towards you; shine so bright that the only thing people can do is smile when they look at you. A smile is just as contagious as a yawn and the ability to make others happy is a priceless gift.

Being able to create your own happiness will lead you to a better life. Make the best out of every situation you are put into. It is simple, just focus on the good instead of the bad. Of course, not every situation is ideal, but you can go about it in two ways and one is much more pleasant than the other. Find the good and let go of everything else.

In order to be truly happy, there are a few things you need to let go of.

Let go of the need to be right all the time. Sometimes it is hard to admit, but you are wrong. You will end up fighting with yourself and others to try and prove your point, but it is okay to be wrong. You can learn from your mistakes and move forward.

Let go of the need to complain. Things do not and will not always be in your best favor, but complaining will not change that. Come up with a solution instead of whining about it. People around you will thank you.

Let go of your past. You cannot dwell on things that have already happened. There is no way to change the past, but there are so many ways to fix the present and set up your future. Move forward, not backward.

Find what makes you happy and dwell on that. If you love to travel, go to the beach, chill with your friends and family, pet a dog, or take a nap and do that! You want to fill your life with what you love because by doing that, you are already halfway there.

Chances are you will not be happy every second of every day – that is unrealistic and unnatural. We are made to feel every emotion possible, but finding some joy through the tough emotions and tough times is what will get you through.

Being positive is a state of mind and having the mindset of making the best out of every situation changes your life. Learn how to let things go and be more understanding of others.

You cannot rely on others to make you happy, but people add to your happiness and it stems from within. You need to find happiness in being with yourself because that is the one person who will be with you through everything.

Learn to laugh at yourself and not take life so seriously. When you learn to not care about what others think of you, a whole new side of yourself will open up. Be free, be silly, and be you.

At the end of the day, you are the one to get yourself through the good and the bad days. Being happy is what makes life worth every tough situation you are put through.

One smile makes up for a thousand frowns. If you are ever feeling down, smile for 30 seconds. It’ll make you feel better and you never know who is watching. Someone might need to see a smile to help them put one on their own face.

Be able to create your own happiness because no one is going to do it for you.

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A Love Letter To The Girl Who Cares Too Much About Everyone But Herself

You, the girl with a heart full of love and no place big enough to store it all.


Our generation is so caught up in this notion that it's "cool" not to care about anything or anyone. I know you've tried to do just that.

I'm sure there was a brief moment where you genuinely believed you were capable of not caring, especially since you convinced everyone around you that you didn't. But that just isn't true, is it? Don't be ashamed of this, don't let anyone ridicule you for having emotions.

After everything life has put you through, you have still remained soft.

This is what makes you, you. This is what makes you beautiful. You care so deeply and love so boldly and it is incredible, never let the world take this from you.

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You are the girl who will give and give and give until you have absolutely nothing left. Some may see this as a weakness, an inconvenience, the perfect excuse to walk all over you. I know you try to make sense of it all, why someone you cared so much about would treat you the way they did.

You'll make excuses for them, rationalize it and turn it all around on yourself.

You'll tell yourself that maybe just maybe they will change even though you know deep down they won't. You gave them everything you had and it still feels as if they took it all and ran. When this happens, remind yourself that you are not a reflection of those who cannot love you. The way that people treat you does not define who you are. Tell yourself this every day, over and over until it sticks. Remind yourself that you are gold, darling, and sometimes they will prefer silver and that is OK.

I know you feel guilty when you have to say no to something, I know you feel like you are letting everyone you love down when you do. Listen to me, it is not your responsibility to tend to everyone else's feelings all the time. By all means, treat their feelings with care, but remember it is not the end of the world when you cannot help them right away.

Remember that it is OK to say no.

You don't have to take care of everyone else all the time. Sometimes it's OK to say no to lunch with your friends and just stay home in bed to watch Netflix when you need a minute for yourself. I know sometimes this is much easier said than done because you are worried about letting other people down, but please give it a try.

With all of this, please remember that you matter. Do not be afraid to take a step back and focus on yourself. You owe yourself the same kind of love and patience and kindness and everything that you have given everyone else. It is OK to think about and put yourself first. Do not feel guilty for taking care of yourself. You are so incredibly loved even when it doesn't feel like it, please always remember that. You cannot fill others up when your own cup is empty. Take care of yourself.

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Work On A Better You Instead Of Trying To Find Yourself

Everyone (especially college students) put so much pressure on "finding themselves," but how does that work?


Every self-help and lifestyle book I've come across has had a section or anecdote about finding oneself. I think finding yourself is a false state of searching for who you want to be and never being content with who you are. It is normal to want to "find yourself" in the sense of what hobbies you're good at, your favorite music genre and other trivial things that most people use to define who they are. But truly finding yourself will never happen, not because you will never be content with who you are or never feeling secure with your being but because one solitary state of who you want to be will never exist.

Throughout your whole life, you are changing every single day. The person you are today will not exist tomorrow or in 5 years or 30 years. Your goals and purpose for your life change constantly. When I was 10 years old I wanted to be a doctor, but now I want to venture into the film world. It was alarming being a freshman in high school in my first health science class, just not feeling anything for health care anymore. It used to intrigue me and I wanted to be a doctor so bad when I was younger, but now I had no intentions of enjoying this class or even trying to be a doctor. Why did my goals shift so much? Why is my new interest of film on the complete opposite side of the occupation spectrum than my last passion? Because I grew up.

I realized that health care is not what I wanted to do, I only wanted to do it because I liked the idea of helping people, it was never a truly deep passion for me. I chose film because I'm selfish. I love film and it has nothing to do with wanting to help others, and that's OK. That is a true passion, something that you do for you. My aspirations are constantly changing, though what I believe in and my morals don't, that's not all of who I am. Who I am today has different goals than yesterday, and that is normal.

Instead of trying to find a list of things to define you, I suggest focusing on bettering the version of you that you are today. The way you act today will bring you to the ideal you have in your head of who you want to be. You have to make the effort to be the best possible version of yourself and your true self will show through that. The way you handle the situations life throws at you and how you go about your day reveal your true self.

There is no searching to do, you already have it. You just have to bring it out by focusing on your goals for now and doing what you think is best for your current state of being.

So go out there and try a new hobby, cook new food, find more music or go to the gym. Do whatever you think is necessary to bring out the true, best version of you – today.

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