Create Your Own Happiness Because No One Is Going To Do It For You

Create Your Own Happiness Because No One Is Going To Do It For You

Being positive is a state of mind and having the mindset of making the best out of every situation changes your life.

The greatest piece of advice I would give to some is to have the ability to create your own happiness.

Being able to create your own happiness is the most important thing you could do for yourself. Happiness starts from inside you; it is a state of mind and a way of life.

Others add on to your happiness, but you need to start it on your own. Your happiness will shine and will draw others towards you; shine so bright that the only thing people can do is smile when they look at you. A smile is just as contagious as a yawn and the ability to make others happy is a priceless gift.

Being able to create your own happiness will lead you to a better life. Make the best out of every situation you are put into. It is simple, just focus on the good instead of the bad. Of course, not every situation is ideal, but you can go about it in two ways and one is much more pleasant than the other. Find the good and let go of everything else.

In order to be truly happy, there are a few things you need to let go of.

Let go of the need to be right all the time. Sometimes it is hard to admit, but you are wrong. You will end up fighting with yourself and others to try and prove your point, but it is okay to be wrong. You can learn from your mistakes and move forward.

Let go of the need to complain. Things do not and will not always be in your best favor, but complaining will not change that. Come up with a solution instead of whining about it. People around you will thank you.

Let go of your past. You cannot dwell on things that have already happened. There is no way to change the past, but there are so many ways to fix the present and set up your future. Move forward, not backward.

Find what makes you happy and dwell on that. If you love to travel, go to the beach, chill with your friends and family, pet a dog, or take a nap and do that! You want to fill your life with what you love because by doing that, you are already halfway there.

Chances are you will not be happy every second of every day – that is unrealistic and unnatural. We are made to feel every emotion possible, but finding some joy through the tough emotions and tough times is what will get you through.

Being positive is a state of mind and having the mindset of making the best out of every situation changes your life. Learn how to let things go and be more understanding of others.

You cannot rely on others to make you happy, but people add to your happiness and it stems from within. You need to find happiness in being with yourself because that is the one person who will be with you through everything.

Learn to laugh at yourself and not take life so seriously. When you learn to not care about what others think of you, a whole new side of yourself will open up. Be free, be silly, and be you.

At the end of the day, you are the one to get yourself through the good and the bad days. Being happy is what makes life worth every tough situation you are put through.

One smile makes up for a thousand frowns. If you are ever feeling down, smile for 30 seconds. It’ll make you feel better and you never know who is watching. Someone might need to see a smile to help them put one on their own face.

Be able to create your own happiness because no one is going to do it for you.

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9 Strategies To Keep In Mind When You Have Decided To Pursue A Healthier Lifestyle

You may not know how to start or what your next steps should be, but that is what "trial and error" is for.

I like to keep busy. Almost too busy.

There are pros and cons to this way of living, but my main concern has always been how to remain healthy physically and still be able to get through most of my daily tasks.

I have not deliberately exercised in well over a year (using my busy barista job as justification). The last thing I want to do after hours of slinging coffee beverages and being social is head to a gym and do more moving around.

My next best option is to be mindful of what I eat from day-to-day, whether I am eating healthy and balanced meals or going for whatever is easiest (the pastries at work are my downfall).

I like healthy foods, I like super unhealthy foods, I actually do enjoy exercising when I am not forced to be in a boring gym, and I enjoy lazy days on the couch.

I am actively pursuing a healthier lifestyle, but instead of forcing myself to diet or pay too much for a gym membership I know I won't use, I just talk myself through any negative thoughts and guilt.

I know this sounds easier in theory than in practice but just calmly talking yourself through a difficult thought or negative feeling will really improve how you take on these challenges.

To help anyone struggling with their goals, here is a list of thoughts and ideas that have helped me in times of self-doubt.

1. Don't sweat the small stuff


Just because you slipped up or you've had a hard time getting started, remind yourself that you want to change, which is progress in itself. Brush it off and keep trying.

2. You'll really know when you're ready


This sounds cliche, but seriously, you will know when you want to make positive change. Sometimes, we are just fed up with accepting things as they are and acknowledging that you need to change something for yourself is a sign that you're ready to move forward.

3. Stop adding unnecessary stress


Life is already stressful, and you will do no favors to yourself if you keep ruminating over every move you make (or don't make). Focus your stress on things that are important, like paying your bills on time and getting through your work week after taking on extra shifts.

4. You will figure this out


Believe in your abilities to make a change and know that you will see results in one way or another by physically feeling more fit or mentally feeling energized and optimistic. You may not know how to start or what your next steps should be, but that is what "trial and error" is for. No one knows what they are doing when they first start a major personal journey, but eventually, they figure it out. Be patient.

5. Maybe you caved and gave in to temptation, whatever.


If you think that you need to make yourself miserable and deprive your cravings, you are mistaken. Beating yourself up over every time you slip up will not help you become healthier. Realize that you are human and perfection is unattainable for anyone. Don't give up just because of a slip-up, just keep moving forward.

6. Look at pictures of cats and dogs, not celebs and supermodels.


Every person is different and every body is different. Work on getting to a point in which you feel comfortable in your own skin because this is about getting healthy, not bashing yourself for not looking like a Photoshop experiment. Besides, animal pictures and videos will put a smile on your face.

7. Research some unique exercise programs and gyms that offer a free class


Plenty of gyms and studios offer a free walk-in class, which is awesome when you're unsure whether or not to jump right into buying a membership. Make your exercise fun or you won't stick with it.

8. Plan ahead, but not too far ahead


Set goals, but start with short-term goals. I mean very short-term. Try planning ahead only week by week at first. Planning too many goals at once will overwhelm you and make small progress seem like something not worth celebrating. Any progress is worth celebrating. Be proud of your accomplishments. Those short-term goals will help you focus on the present and the small changes you need to prepare you for attaining the long-term goals.

9. Chill. Breathe. Live.


Making lifestyle changes is difficult enough without the nagging thoughts of doubt and negativity in your head.

Even just thinking about making a change for the sake of your overall health is an accomplishment. Remind yourself that change takes time and that you got this.


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I Went To 2 Different Fat Camps And That Was 2 Too Many

It's more about the journey than the results.

Fat camp – that’s what it is.

It’s not “new image” camp or any other positive, motivating or inspiring word that owners try to use as business tactics to brainwash customers. It’s fat camp because the only thing celebrated or even highlighted is losing weight.

Sure, losing weight has its benefits: you look better and you’re supposed to feel better, but when you’re sent away from home for six weeks at a young age and have no choice but to work out for five hours a day, then of course, you’re going to lose weight.

What people don’t realize, though, is that if fat camp instills anything in its campers, it’s eating habits that would otherwise be considered eating disorders. Accompanied by an unhealthy and almost impossible workout regimen, this diet is not enough to sustain an individual, especially a young and growing one, as many campers are.

The problem with this is that parents think that after a few short weeks, their children will return home with a new outlook on their health and well-being.

They think their children won’t relapse once they are in the presence of all the food that they are accustomed to eating, and that they will work out for just as many hours despite their busy, everyday schedules that they’re used to.

Unlike most, I went to two fat camps at two very different stages of my life. In sixth grade, my parents thought that it would be an amazing opportunity to learn about the importance of my health from others, including nutritionists and other professionals that they were not.

I was hesitant, but I agreed because I had not known any different or any better. I was sick and tired of discussing my weight with my parents and thought that my life would be forever changed. The website said it would be, so why wouldn’t it be?

Silly, vulnerable me.

Needless to say, it was the worst summer of my life.

I returned home significantly thinner, but felt as if I had learned very little about food and was unequipped with the necessary skills to follow that same diet and workout regimen at home. I had met a few good friends, but no one that I felt the need to keep in touch with like my other friends did with their home friends. I was so excited to leave such an overly competitive and unsupportive environment.

Then, in my junior year of high school, I expressed interest in going back to fat camp. This time, though, to another camp and only for three weeks. After losing a significant amount of weight on my own in my sophomore year of high school, I knew the diet and workout regimen that worked best for me, but I still wanted to see if I could learn more.

And so, I went again. My experience was completely different: I made friends that I still talk to over two years later and I actually enjoyed being there a little more. Still, I knew that something was off, and my belief about fat camp was reaffirmed: it’s just another unpromising business.

Being in the oldest division in camp, I knew things that I would have never known in my sixth-grade years. I watched a counselor on boys’ side get fired because he was selling candy to his campers for astronomical prices, and I heard of girls sneaking snacks that they had their friends back home stuff into stuffed animals and ship to them.

This willingness to deliberately cheat on something that parents paid so much money for and instilled so much confidence in confused me, but I knew that it was because people didn’t genuinely care about their health.

The focus was on losing weight. Every Sunday evening activity ended by the owner announcing how many pounds the boys’ side lost and how many pounds the girls’ side lost, hoping that by creating a competitive environment, people would be more motivated to lose weight.

Instead, people are focused only on losing weight, and they forget about their health and well-being. They forget about their happiness and confidence, amongst so many other important attributes, that would help these campers continue to lose weight and maintain good health once they walk out of the camp gates.

Unlike other things that aren’t the same as they look in television, fat camp is. It’s exactly like the Biggest Loser and other weight-loss competition shows, only those who are there are almost half the age of the contestants. We see that these individuals so often relapse and gain weight, and more than anything, we see how unhappy and lonely they are.

Why do we think it is beneficial to send our children and encourage other friends and family members to subject themselves to an institution that will inherently leave them worse off?

Weight loss is more about the journey than it is about the results. It’s about the lessons you learn through it, the people you meet who support you while you do it, and it's about improving your health and wellness.

None of these aspects are focused on in fat camp, in fact, the journey is obsolete. The "before and after" is the only thing focused on. And for that, for going to two different camps at two different stages in my life and realizing the unhealthy behaviors that could have consumed me had I not focused on my happiness above all, I am thankful that I was not the kind of consumer that camp owners wanted me to be.

You can always lose weight, but you can not lose sight of your health and of the idea that skinny doesn't equate to happy or healthy. Remember that.

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