Create Your Own Happiness Because No One Is Going To Do It For You

Create Your Own Happiness Because No One Is Going To Do It For You

Being positive is a state of mind and having the mindset of making the best out of every situation changes your life.

The greatest piece of advice I would give to some is to have the ability to create your own happiness.

Being able to create your own happiness is the most important thing you could do for yourself. Happiness starts from inside you; it is a state of mind and a way of life.

Others add on to your happiness, but you need to start it on your own. Your happiness will shine and will draw others towards you; shine so bright that the only thing people can do is smile when they look at you. A smile is just as contagious as a yawn and the ability to make others happy is a priceless gift.

Being able to create your own happiness will lead you to a better life. Make the best out of every situation you are put into. It is simple, just focus on the good instead of the bad. Of course, not every situation is ideal, but you can go about it in two ways and one is much more pleasant than the other. Find the good and let go of everything else.

In order to be truly happy, there are a few things you need to let go of.

Let go of the need to be right all the time. Sometimes it is hard to admit, but you are wrong. You will end up fighting with yourself and others to try and prove your point, but it is okay to be wrong. You can learn from your mistakes and move forward.

Let go of the need to complain. Things do not and will not always be in your best favor, but complaining will not change that. Come up with a solution instead of whining about it. People around you will thank you.

Let go of your past. You cannot dwell on things that have already happened. There is no way to change the past, but there are so many ways to fix the present and set up your future. Move forward, not backward.

Find what makes you happy and dwell on that. If you love to travel, go to the beach, chill with your friends and family, pet a dog, or take a nap and do that! You want to fill your life with what you love because by doing that, you are already halfway there.

Chances are you will not be happy every second of every day – that is unrealistic and unnatural. We are made to feel every emotion possible, but finding some joy through the tough emotions and tough times is what will get you through.

Being positive is a state of mind and having the mindset of making the best out of every situation changes your life. Learn how to let things go and be more understanding of others.

You cannot rely on others to make you happy, but people add to your happiness and it stems from within. You need to find happiness in being with yourself because that is the one person who will be with you through everything.

Learn to laugh at yourself and not take life so seriously. When you learn to not care about what others think of you, a whole new side of yourself will open up. Be free, be silly, and be you.

At the end of the day, you are the one to get yourself through the good and the bad days. Being happy is what makes life worth every tough situation you are put through.

One smile makes up for a thousand frowns. If you are ever feeling down, smile for 30 seconds. It’ll make you feel better and you never know who is watching. Someone might need to see a smile to help them put one on their own face.

Be able to create your own happiness because no one is going to do it for you.

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30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Because "pretty" is so overrated.

Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

28. Romantic

Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

29. Elysian

I want to give you the same feeling that you get in paradise.

30. Curious

And I never want to stop searching for answers.
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A College Student's Guide To Self-Care 101

A trend on the rise, self-care is becoming more and more prevalent.


My social media sites have been exploding with mentions of self-care. Tweets about the concept are ever on the rise and I think it is important to explore the concept. Self-care practices have become increasingly common because people are ever interested in tending to their emotional and physical wellbeing.

Unfortunately, with the popularization of the concept comes misconceptions. Self-care is not strictly about "treating yourself" and face masks. Additionally, it encompasses growth, reflection, and change. So, without further adieu, here are my top ten self-care tips!

1. Learn to be by yourself

This one is harder than people would think at first. Everyone's personality is different and, therefore, their affinity to being alone will differ as well. However, as I mentioned before, self-care is not only about physical practices. It is about eliminating toxicity from your life. This means eliminating bad habits, which is achieved through reflection and acknowledgment of the problematic habituation. Being by yourself allows you to set your own goals for yourself without any influence from outside factors. Additionally, the ability to be by yourself aids in establishing good self-esteem and ensures that the relationships you allow in your life are true and special rather than just to pass time.

2. Accept compliments

I don't know how this became normalized or why, but I despise the fact that girls have been taught to downplay their confidence. If someone offers a compliment, smile and accept it. Positive feelings towards yourself should be integral parts of your thought processes. Additionally, pay yourself compliments. They don't have to be said out loud but appreciate the beauty that is your body. It does so much for you, the least you could do is appreciate it every now and then.

3. Hold yourself accountable

Like I said earlier, part of self-care is eliminating bad habits. The tendency to attribute one's own failures and shortcomings to external forces is self-serving bias and those with good self-esteem are guilty of it. It may be difficult to balance attribution and self-esteem but in order to achieve growth, you have to acknowledge your own faults. This will allow for clarity and for you to work towards achieving better habits.

4. Don't bottle up your feelings

I am especially guilty of not following this tip. Keeping to yourself may seem like the easier thing to do and, if you are like anything like me, you may hate being seen as an inconvenience. However, I know that if I bottle up for too long, I tend to shut down and then I won't be able to achieve anything. Expressing your feelings is okay. Crying is okay. Anger is okay. Emotion is okay.

5. Try new things

Take a yoga class. Volunteer. Go to a new restaurant. Anything that pushes you out of your comfort zone incubates growth. You don't even have to enjoy everything you do, you just have to try. However, you may also find a new passion because of it.

6. Get some sleep

Don't spend all your time sleeping and lose all motivation to do anything, but make a conscious effort to get sufficient sleep so that all of your days can be as efficient as possible. You will be more energized and your immune system, as well as your physical appearance, will thank you.

7. Don't force yourself to do things you don't like

I know I said to try new things. However, if your best friend loves running and you go with her one day and find out you HATE it, don't force yourself. Find what works for you through trial and error. You will be much happier with your own flow and it keeps you from developing resentment.

8. Learn to say no

All the women in my life are especially guilty of this. We spread ourselves too thin because we can't say no. This goes hand in hand with not forcing yourself to do things that you don't want to do. Saying no doesn't make you a bitch, it makes you strong and lets people know that you know what you want.

9. Say what you mean

Don't sugarcoat things. It will leave you feeling unfulfilled and, quite frankly, it's exhausting trying to tiptoe around what you really mean. Don't be rude or aggressive, rather assertive and straight forward. It will make you a better communicator and will take pressure off of you as well.

10. Finally, treat yourself

I said self care wasn't entirely about that. I didn't say it wasn't necessary.

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