Create Your Own Happiness Because No One Is Going To Do It For You

Create Your Own Happiness Because No One Is Going To Do It For You

Being positive is a state of mind and having the mindset of making the best out of every situation changes your life.

The greatest piece of advice I would give to some is to have the ability to create your own happiness.

Being able to create your own happiness is the most important thing you could do for yourself. Happiness starts from inside you; it is a state of mind and a way of life.

Others add on to your happiness, but you need to start it on your own. Your happiness will shine and will draw others towards you; shine so bright that the only thing people can do is smile when they look at you. A smile is just as contagious as a yawn and the ability to make others happy is a priceless gift.

Being able to create your own happiness will lead you to a better life. Make the best out of every situation you are put into. It is simple, just focus on the good instead of the bad. Of course, not every situation is ideal, but you can go about it in two ways and one is much more pleasant than the other. Find the good and let go of everything else.

In order to be truly happy, there are a few things you need to let go of.

Let go of the need to be right all the time. Sometimes it is hard to admit, but you are wrong. You will end up fighting with yourself and others to try and prove your point, but it is okay to be wrong. You can learn from your mistakes and move forward.

Let go of the need to complain. Things do not and will not always be in your best favor, but complaining will not change that. Come up with a solution instead of whining about it. People around you will thank you.

Let go of your past. You cannot dwell on things that have already happened. There is no way to change the past, but there are so many ways to fix the present and set up your future. Move forward, not backward.

Find what makes you happy and dwell on that. If you love to travel, go to the beach, chill with your friends and family, pet a dog, or take a nap and do that! You want to fill your life with what you love because by doing that, you are already halfway there.

Chances are you will not be happy every second of every day – that is unrealistic and unnatural. We are made to feel every emotion possible, but finding some joy through the tough emotions and tough times is what will get you through.

Being positive is a state of mind and having the mindset of making the best out of every situation changes your life. Learn how to let things go and be more understanding of others.

You cannot rely on others to make you happy, but people add to your happiness and it stems from within. You need to find happiness in being with yourself because that is the one person who will be with you through everything.

Learn to laugh at yourself and not take life so seriously. When you learn to not care about what others think of you, a whole new side of yourself will open up. Be free, be silly, and be you.

At the end of the day, you are the one to get yourself through the good and the bad days. Being happy is what makes life worth every tough situation you are put through.

One smile makes up for a thousand frowns. If you are ever feeling down, smile for 30 seconds. It’ll make you feel better and you never know who is watching. Someone might need to see a smile to help them put one on their own face.

Be able to create your own happiness because no one is going to do it for you.

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I Weigh Over 200 Lbs And You Can Catch Me In A Bikini This Summer

There is no magic number that determines who can wear a bikini and who cannot.

It is about February every year when I realize that bikini season is approaching. I know a lot of people who feel this way, too. In pursuit of the perfect "summer body," more meals are prepped and more time is spent in the gym. Obviously, making healthier choices is a good thing! But here is a reminder that you do not have to have a flat stomach and abs to rock a bikini.

Since my first semester of college, I've weighed over 200 pounds. Sometimes way more, sometimes only a few pounds more, but I have not seen a weight starting with the number "1" since the beginning of my freshman year of college.

My weight has fluctuated, my health has fluctuated, and unfortunately, my confidence has fluctuated. But no matter what, I haven't allowed myself to give up wearing the things I want to wear to please the eyes of society. And you shouldn't, either.

I weigh over 200lbs in both of these photos. To me, (and probably to you), one photo looks better than the other one. But what remains the same is, regardless, I still chose to wear the bathing suit that made me feel beautiful, and I'm still smiling in both photos. Nobody has the right to tell you what you can and can't wear because of the way you look.

There is no magic number that equates to health. In the second photo (and the cover photo), I still weigh over 200 lbs. But I hit the gym daily, ate all around healthier and noticed differences not only on the scale but in my mood, my heart health, my skin and so many other areas. You are not unhealthy because you weigh over 200 lbs and you are not healthy because you weigh 125. And, you are not confined to certain clothing items because of it, either.

This summer, after gaining quite a bit of weight back during the second semester of my senior year, I look somewhere between those two photos. I am disappointed in myself, but ultimately still love my body and I'm proud of the motivation I have to get to where I want to be while having the confidence to still love myself where I am.

And if you think just because I look a little chubby that I won't be rocking a bikini this summer, you're out of your mind.

If YOU feel confident, and if YOU feel beautiful, don't mind what anybody else says. Rock that bikini and feel amazing doing it.

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I'm Motivated, But I Still Get Off Track Sometimes And That's OK

Every failure turns into a success.

Whether you're working out and getting that body you've always wanted, trying to find a job, etc, staying motivated can be difficult.

Finding our motivation doesn't mean automatic success. We have these goals in our head but suddenly we lose interest in trying. It's like those negatives override the positives and it's hard to pull ourselves out of it.

You want to be fit but you just can't get yourself to the gym. You make excuses that you're tired, you don't feel good, or that you have nobody to go with. You want to find a job, but you can't because your resume isn't good enough. It's too much work, or you're just scared.

The struggle to stay motivated is something we all deal with, but I find that with the right people and with the right frame of mind, you can do it. If you really want something, you will go for it. It's OK to lose that motivation and to have feelings of giving up, but just remember to pick yourself back up again and keep going.

I become motivated in different ways. I have been reading this book called, "101 Secrets For Your Twenties" by Paul Angone and it's so relatable. It has actually inspired me to not give up and to know that other people are going through their ups and downs in their 20s just like I am. Some of the chapters are so spot on and specific that I think he's writing about me. If the author has gone through these things and has become successful, then I can do the same.

I look back at my accomplishments and what it took to get to where I am today and I'm so grateful. I use that as my motivation and whenever I get a little off track, I remind myself of where I am now, how I got here, and who I am as a person.

I'm a go-getter and I've always been the type of person to try and achieve anything my heart is set on. I wanted to go to FGCU and I did. I wanted to graduate and I did. I wanted to write a book and I did.

Those little voices that tell you "No, you can't do it" are lying.

Take those ugly words and turn them into something great.

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