Why are we told to marry rich? Why are we as females told at some point to marry a rich man in order to be happy? I've been told that if I marry rich, I don't have to love them; I'll just be happy I'm not struggling. That's a horrible life to live, though.
Consider this: you fell in love with a man that isn't rich; he's more than likely just getting by. He wants to give you the life he thinks you deserve, so he works hard in order to do that. Now if you're working hard as well because you probably don't want to sit at home bored, then you both have a combined income that can assist the both of you in just getting by. Maybe you have an extra couple hundred bucks this month and can go celebrate. Life is good because you're both happy.
Consider the same person that had fallen in love with the man that wasn't rich has decided instead to marry for money: now she's married to this guy who has no shortage of money it seems and he can take you out to dinner or the movies any night of the week. You're happy for a while because you're experiencing new things, things you'd never be able to experience had you been just getting by in life, but you do not love this man. Soon the extravagance wears off and all the trips out of town, fancy dinners and the like become meaningless all because you didn't marry this guy for love.
Going on fancy trips is fun in the beginning, but it's much more fun if it's with someone you love and can enjoy the experience with you.
According to Business Insider, money can make you happy. Their five-year study concluded that money was the source of many marital problems and unhappiness in their jobs. It also lists three strategies to get out of poverty. The first one is living below your means; which translates to the 80/20 rule of saving 20% of your net pay and living off the remaining 80%. The second is expanding your means; which would mean that you could have a second job and save the money from the second job while only living off the money from the first job. The third is to do both of those things.
I don't believe those facts at all. I believe that if you marry for love and do everything you possibly can to make the relationship work with the means you have you will succeed.
I love my boyfriend and while I wouldn't mind us having some extra money now and then, I'm happy dealing without because we have the option of staying in and watching Netflix or playing video games together. There are plenty of options to avoid spending money unless absolutely necessary and in those moments where we're alone playing video games are the ones we'll remember most.
