Having girl friends as a guy

5 Reasons why being a guy with girl friends is the best

It's cool to hang with the guys, but sometimes your life just needs a woman's touch.

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There is a stereotype that if you're a guy with the majority of your friends being girls then you must be gay. Well to all those who do think that, you are making a very wrong assumption. Although that may be the case for many guys, it's not the situation for me at all. There are many perks to having girls as your friends, and sometimes, they end up being some of your best friends. Here are five reasons why I love having girl friends...

1. You learn more about girls in 5 minutes while with them than you do living with your dad your entire life.

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Don't get me wrong, I love my dad. He tries to give me "girl advice" all the time and sometimes it makes sense, and sometimes he gets it all wrong. What I've learned from having so many girl friends is that I know what NOT to do when I'm in a relationship. "Hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn," oh yeah, but try being behind the scenes and you'll get the best dating advice just from sitting and observing unfolded situations. They help us see how girls REALLY think, where a girlfriend might disguise this for a potential suitor. Girl friends help us men, as the clearly dumber and more inferior gender, get things right before doing it wrong.

2. Girl friends teach us about the hundreds of personalities each girl can have.

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A girlfriend might try to hide her bad sides to please you, but a girl friend is going to go crazy on you just because she feels like it. There is no sugarcoating a girl friend; you get her for what she is, and she's not afraid to show you. Even having your sister as your best friend can make you realize that as much as girls like to make us think they have it all together, they don't.

3. They are the best for FREE therapy.

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Let's be real, in our culture it's easy to get sucked into the whole "guys can't have emotion" thing. You try to have a heart to heart with your guy friends, but frankly it's like talking to a brick wall sometimes (especially if they have never gone through situations themselves or they really don't care). Having girl friends means you can rant, they will rant, and then after ranting you go on food runs to the closest and cheapest fast food restaurant. It's the best, and sometimes that's all you need to make your day better.

4. They want to make you better, not perfect.

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Girl friends who are real with you will give you that blunt truth, especially if you ask for it. I have learned so much about myself because of the fact that girls can see things that guys would not see, or judge you because of it. Because you're not in a relationship with them, they're not trying to make you a better companion. Instead, they are more focused on making you a better person.

5. The friendships can possibly lead to something more.

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With a girl friend, sometimes you learn so much about each other that something bigger and better does come out of it. Meeting someone with the intention of a relationship is very different than meeting someone with the intention of a simple friendship. If you're pursuing, you interact differently. You will only allow certain parts of yourself to show and your transparency will occur later down the road for some topics. You are just able to connect with her differently and possibly better than some random guy who hits on her, just because she's cute or currently single. Having girl friends opens up the possibility that because you've been honest and truthful and yourself from the get-go, you become your truest and best self around them.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.

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To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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Goodbye School, Hello Real World

I'm ready for ya!

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It's starting to hit me.

I've been in school, year after year, since kindergarten. Maybe even pre-school!

Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

That being said, I can't help but think... What is life without due dates? What is life like without scrambling to turn in an assignment that's due at 11:59 PM? What is life like with actual sleep? Sleep? I don't know her.

Like I keep telling my boyfriend and my parents, I don't have it all figured out. At least not right now. But I will, and I'm in no rush to land my dream job right now. If anything, I want to take a year to myself. I want to travel. I want to sleep in if I d*mn well please! I want to read as many books as I want. I want to write till my fingers fall off (OK, maybe not that).

You get the jist.

I'm free. I can do and be whatever I want. And you know what? That's terrifying.

I'm lost. I've followed this structure for so long. Now what?

I don't have all the answers yet. But for now, at least right at this very moment, I'm so thankful to have been able to receive such an amazing education. And to be able to say I'm graduating with my bachelors in communication at 21 is an accomplishment in itself.

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