12 Tips To Guide You On Your Journey Of Self-Discovery

12 Tips To Guide You On Your Journey Of Self-Discovery

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We all feel lost sometimes. We embark on a mission to find ourselves, but the mission is flawed from the beginning. See, we are already found. Hence, it isn't about finding yourself but knowing yourself. There are many paths to getting to know yourself, but here are a few tips to help guide you.

1. Practice mindfulness

Meditation is a way to know your true self. All you need to know is within yourself, seeking it externally in the world will only take you so far. You need to look within. -Yut

Life is busy and messy, and we often forget to take time to relax. I'm not talking about the kind of relaxing that happens when we engage in leisure activity. We don't take time just to be. In the busy modern world, we lose touch with ourselves. A good way to regain connection with yourself is to meditate. Check out this great guide on how to start meditating. You can practice mindfulness in everyday life by paying attention to yourself and your surroundings without judgment. Do not focus on the past or future but the present moment.

2. Ask yourself, "Who am I?"

It may sound simple, but it can be effective. Who are you? What brings you joy? What are you most afraid of? What feelings are leading you right now?

3. Journal

Journaling is a great way to reflect. Here are 30 great writing prompts for self-discovery.

4. Find your core values

Your core values drive you. They help define who you are and who you aim to be. Use this tool to help you find your core values. Creativity, equality, understanding, intellectual status, and family-orientedness are among the common personal values listed.

5. Find your purpose and passion

What do you enjoy doing so much that you lose track of time? This is your flow state, and it is likely what you are passionate about. Pay attention to the things you don't like because those emotions are also useful in finding your passion. If your heart isn't in something, let it go. Check out 6 clues to finding your passion and purpose in life.

6. Look to your childhood

Even reading a favorite book from your childhood can help you discover parts of yourself that maybe have been forgotten. As children, we are naturally in tune with what we like. What did you enjoy in childhood?

7. Listen to what others say about you

People who are close to us can often tell us who we are better than we can tell ourselves. On your journey of self-discovery, ask your friends what they think about you.

8. Take personality tests

This is a fun way to get to know yourself a bit better. Try out these quizzes.

The Myers-Briggs Temperament Indicator (MBTI)
The Big 5 Personality Test
VisualDNA's Who Am I? Quiz

9. See challenges, not struggles

When we struggle, we often lose touch with ourselves. We feel lost. One way to counteract this is to see struggles as challenges. Take this quiz to discover the core beliefs that you hold about yourself. Frustration and depression may be indicated by these core beliefs.

Look at the story you tell yourself, and change it if it causes you harm. You can consciously change the story of who you think you are to fit who you want to be. This task is not easy or fast, but it is a challenge worth pursuing.

10. Practice self-care

Take some time for yourself. Do things you enjoy - whether that is a hot shower or a long run. Self-care looks different for everyone.

11. Listen to what you say "yes" and "no" to

What do you enjoy? What are you interested in? When you feel lost, these things may be unclear. Look back to the last thing that brought you joy. Remember how your body felt. That is a "yes." The things that you don't enjoy produce a different response in your body. You will become more in tune with these things when you as you become more mindful.

12. Surround yourself with people who allow you to grow

The journey of self-discovery is not a solo one, although it may feel like that at times. If you are surrounded with people who do not have your best interests at heart, then you are will not be able to grow into the best possible version of yourself. Eliminate those people from your life, and surround yourself with people who allow you to grow.


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College As Told By Junie B. Jones

A tribute to the beloved author Barbara Parks.
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The Junie B. Jones series was a big part of my childhood. They were the first chapter books I ever read. On car trips, my mother would entertain my sister and me by purchasing a new Junie B. Jones book and reading it to us. My favorite part about the books then, and still, are how funny they are. Junie B. takes things very literally, and her (mis)adventures are hilarious. A lot of children's authors tend to write for children and parents in their books to keep the attention of both parties. Barbara Park, the author of the Junie B. Jones series, did just that. This is why many things Junie B. said in Kindergarten could be applied to her experiences in college, as shown here.

When Junie B. introduces herself hundreds of times during orientation week:

“My name is Junie B. Jones. The B stands for Beatrice. Except I don't like Beatrice. I just like B and that's all." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 1)

When she goes to her first college career fair:

"Yeah, only guess what? I never even heard of that dumb word careers before. And so I won't know what the heck we're talking about." (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 2)

When she thinks people in class are gossiping about her:

“They whispered to each other for a real long time. Also, they kept looking at me. And they wouldn't even stop." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When someone asks her about the library:

“It's where the books are. And guess what? Books are my very favorite things in the whole world!" (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 27)

When she doesn't know what she's eating at the caf:

“I peeked inside the bread. I stared and stared for a real long time. 'Cause I didn't actually recognize the meat, that's why. Finally, I ate it anyway. It was tasty...whatever it was." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 66)

When she gets bored during class:

“I drew a sausage patty on my arm. Only that wasn't even an assignment." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 18)

When she considers dropping out:

“Maybe someday I will just be the Boss of Cookies instead!" (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 76)

When her friends invite her to the lake for Labor Day:

“GOOD NEWS! I CAN COME TO THE LAKE WITH YOU, I BELIEVE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 17)

When her professor never enters grades on time:

“I rolled my eyes way up to the sky." (Junie B., First Grader Boss of Lunch, p. 38)

When her friends won't stop poking her on Facebook:


“Do not poke me one more time, and I mean it." (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 7)

When she finds out she got a bad test grade:

“Then my eyes got a little bit wet. I wasn't crying, though." (Junie B. Jones and the Stupid Smelly Bus, p. 17)

When she isn't allowed to have a pet on campus but really wants one:

“FISH STICK! I NAMED HIM FISH STICK BECAUSE HE'S A FISH STICK, OF COURSE!" (Junie B. Jones Smells Something Fishy, p. 59)

When she has to walk across campus in the dark:

“There's no such thing as monsters. There's no such thing as monsters." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 12)

When her boyfriend breaks her heart:

“I am a bachelorette. A bachelorette is when your boyfriend named Ricardo dumps you at recess. Only I wasn't actually expecting that terrible trouble." (Junie B. Jones Is (almost) a Flower Girl, p. 1)

When she paints her first canvas:


"And painting is the funnest thing I love!" (Junie B. Jones and her Big Fat Mouth, p. 61)

When her sorority takes stacked pictures:

“The biggie kids stand in the back. And the shortie kids stand in the front. I am a shortie kid. Only that is nothing to be ashamed of." (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed, p. 7)

When she's had enough of the caf's food:

“Want to bake a lemon pie? A lemon pie would be fun, don't you think?" (Junie B. Jones Has a Monster Under Her Bed p. 34)

When she forgets about an exam:

“Speechless is when your mouth can't speech." (Junie B. Jones Loves Handsome Warren, p. 54)

When she finds out she has enough credits to graduate:

“A DIPLOMA! A DIPLOMA! I WILL LOVE A DIPLOMA!" (Junie B. Jones is a Graduation Girl p. 6)

When she gets home from college:

"IT'S ME! IT'S JUNIE B. JONES! I'M HOME FROM MY SCHOOL!" (Junie B. Jones and some Sneaky Peaky Spying p. 20)

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11 Things You NEVER Say To A College Girl Trying To Get Into Shape

Just never talk about a person's weight.

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When my family and friends joked that I was going to gain 15 pounds in my freshman year of college as a result of the "Freshman 15," I thought it was what it was supposed to be: a joke. However, as the year has come to an end, I realized that I actually did put on a couple of pounds, albeit it wasn't the predicted 15.

As I told those that I wanted to get into an ideal shape for my body, I was met with some insensitive and ignorant remarks. Everyone thought that I mean just losing the weight I had put on.

1. "You walk to all of your classes, why aren't you losing weight that way?"

My legs are more toned than they ever have been before. However, most of the weight I have been gaining has gone directly to my gut (annoying!) and walking does not remedy that. Unfortunately, I have to stick to ab workouts.

2. "But you look fine to me!"

I don't feel healthy to myself. I'm not trying to stay in shape for anyone else, just myself, thanks. I appreciate you trying to make me feel better about my body image but I know something has to be done.

3. "I didn't gain any weight in college."

Good for you. I did. I'm trying to do something about it.

4. "Just stop drinking."

I don't drink. Really, the only liquid I consume is water or iced tea. I don't like soda and alcohol makes me nauseous way too easily.

5. "Isn't the gym free on campus for students?"

Yes, but some people don't like working out in front of others. I am one of those people. My friend lives in an apartment complex that has their own gym and almost no one is ever there but not everyone has that luxury. Also, some are busy and do not have time for a quick jog or to stretch.

6. "You should try this diet/pills/exercise routine."

I am thankful that you are trying to help but my diet is just eating healthy and having a few cheat days in between. I know what exercises work best for me and I am just not taking pills. Bodies adjust differently.

7. "Don't starve/force yourself to throw up."

Trust me, I know. I'm trying to lose the weight healthily. If you do find yourself practicing unhealthy eating habits or realizing your body image is deteriorating, the NEDA Hotline is (800) 931-2237. Please reach out if you are going through hardships.

8. "Won't you have to buy a whole new wardrobe?"

If I drop (or even add) a size or two. We grow out and grow tired of clothes on the regular, what's the difference if you have to buy some because of a weight change? Plus, who doesn't love buying new clothes?

9. "Just eat healthier."

Didn't think of it! Options are limited at college where the dining halls don't offer all that much that is actually good for your body. Now that I'm at home, it's easier. But I'm already trying to eat healthy.

10. "You've evened out since the last time I saw you!"

This is code for you've put on some weight. I hear it mostly from older relatives because my friends will flat out tell me if I've gotten a little chunky.

11. "You're just stressed."

Personally, this one gets me livid. I do admit that when I am stressed or anxious, I do turn to food for comfort but when I am delighted and genuinely happy, will my body magically revert into a fit state?

Sadly, no.

Honestly, I am just trying to get my body back into shape. For me, that means cutting back on greasy foods and kicking a bad habit of sitting on my butt all day. For others, it could mean more or less. As long as your body is in good physical condition and you are content, the number on the scale and others' thoughts shouldn't matter. Take care of yourself.

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