There’s no denying it. Dating in college can be a brutal. This is especially true if you have recently become single. Breaking into the dating pool is a challenge that many of us face. Yet, despite all the drama and anxiety, exposure to so many new people can be an amazing experience. I was having one of those famous late night talk with a good friend when they decided to share some profound and sincere advice with me.
Too often, we are fed the stereotypical dating advice. Be yourself. Follow your heart. These things are what many people consider the one size fits all solution to dating. Sure, there are some basics that might help you find a significant other. But, in an evolving world, things are not as simple as they used to be. Dating for our younger generation takes much more thought then it might have for our parents.
College students are expected to prioritize academics and success within a career before their own personal relationships with a significant other. Dating is pushed to the back-burner of life. This is why hook-ups have become so popular in college and among young adults. Since a good majority of our time is being consumed with academics, clubs and extra circular activities, finding time to establish deep and committed relationships is very difficult.
College is a time when we start to explore different sides of ourselves and become independent when it comes to choosing romantic interests. So, if you are looking for a committed relationship or just looking to have some fun on dates, here are a few helpful pieces of advice.
Follow your intuition.
That gut feeling is there for a reason.
Don’t feel the need to stick to a “type.”
Keep your possibilities open. You never know what might end up working out. In other words, don't force yourself into a box.
Be true to yourself.
You don’t owe anyone anything. Dating decisions that you make should be for your own selfish and personal reasons.
Give it time.
If you want something real, remember that deeper emotion takes time.
Ignore the gossip.
Don’t ignore your friends’ opinions, but rather be cautious about their reasons for approval or disapproval.
Don’t commit yourself to the first person you meet.
It is OK to date around a little bit. Dating is like shopping for jeans. Often, the first pair you try on isn’t necessarily the pair that you stick with.
