Choosing To Be Grateful

Choosing To Be Grateful

Somedays you really have to make the effort to choose to be grateful.


My roommate and I have a small painting on our wall that she made that says the words "choose to be grateful" in beautiful writing with fall colored leaves surrounding it. Some days I look at the painting and it acts as an encouragement, while other days it seems like a splinter in my foot reminder. Some days it is natural, other days it seems like the most foreign concepts I can think of.

Grateful comes from the Latin word gratus which means pleasing, agreeable, and thankful. Makes sense, but how are we supposed to choose those things when things aren't favorable and pleasing? If we are only grateful when the circumstances are going the way we want them to, what are we to do during the difficult stages of life? Is there even a point in choosing to be grateful when things are particularly going your way?

Somedays it is very, very difficult to remember to be grateful. Weeks with three midterms and little sleep aren't usually at the top of the list of things that I am grateful for. I often get bogged down in the circumstances that I forget the purpose or the meaning of what I am doing. When I take a step back, look at the larger picture, and choose to be grateful, that is when I start to remember the beauty of the circumstances because I know the end goal. Sure I might not be completely content with the circumstances but I am getting a fantastic education, in two areas that I have a real passion for. The classes and schedule that I have right now are preparing me for my future education and career. I am grateful for the opportunities, even though it seems difficult now.

One thing I struggle with when choosing to be grateful is that I often subconsciously tell myself that if I am going to be grateful I must also be very happy. I have to remind myself that it isn't always the case. Gratefulness can often result in being happy, but you do not always have to be happy to be grateful. Some of the times where I have been the most grateful were also times where it seemed like nothing was going right in my eyes.

So no matter what we are feeling we can, and should choose to be grateful. Instead of honing in on the things that we are discontent with maybe we should focus on the things that are more "pleasing" and "agreeable" to us. What are areas in your life that you can inwardly agree are going well or things that you are thankful for?

Being overly enthusiastic is not a requirement. The only thing necessary to choose to be grateful is acknowledgment. That simple acknowledgment can go a long way from bringing a small smile across your face, to the reminder that your journey is part of a larger plan and the work going in right now will all be worth it. Choose to be grateful.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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It's starting to hit me.

I've been in school, year after year, since kindergarten. Maybe even pre-school!

Now, I'm about to graduate with my bachelors in communication and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'll say it. I often sugarcoat it or suppress it but d*mn it. I'm going to applaud myself. It was hard work. It took a lot of motivation, determination, (caffeine), and willpower to get to where I am today. I worked my ass off.

That being said, I can't help but think... What is life without due dates? What is life like without scrambling to turn in an assignment that's due at 11:59 PM? What is life like with actual sleep? Sleep? I don't know her.

Like I keep telling my boyfriend and my parents, I don't have it all figured out. At least not right now. But I will, and I'm in no rush to land my dream job right now. If anything, I want to take a year to myself. I want to travel. I want to sleep in if I d*mn well please! I want to read as many books as I want. I want to write till my fingers fall off (OK, maybe not that).

You get the jist.

I'm free. I can do and be whatever I want. And you know what? That's terrifying.

I'm lost. I've followed this structure for so long. Now what?

I don't have all the answers yet. But for now, at least right at this very moment, I'm so thankful to have been able to receive such an amazing education. And to be able to say I'm graduating with my bachelors in communication at 21 is an accomplishment in itself.

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