The Struggles Of Not Partying (Often) At A Party School

The Struggles Of Not Partying (Often) At A Party School

Go ahead and call me boring, I'm already used to it.


Half of you will read this and feel my pain and the other half will read this and judge me. What's new though, am I right?

For those of you who are unaware, I attend Florida State University, notoriously known for its nightlife. If you know of Tallahassee or of FSU, then you know exactly what I mean. We have about a gazillions clubs and on top of that, a gazillion more places to drink/pre-game at. So that in and of itself is already a mess, drunk people everywhere, or better yet, a nice mix of drunk AND homeless people on the streets around 10 PM to 3 AM. I may be exaggerating but also, am I really though?

Let me be absolutely clear here, in no way am I bashing Tallahassee's nightlife (because it's popping, let me tell you), in no way am I bashing those who partake in Tallahassee's nightlife (because you do you), and in no way am I bashing homeless people (because rude). This is solely about what it's like being a homebody, when everyone, including your three lovely roommates, party like crazy.

Now don't get me wrong, I have definitely participated here are there. When I first moved up to Tallahassee, I went out almost every week for maybe a month (if even), but then it got boring real quick. I was tired of going out, I was tired of spending money, and most importantly, I was tired of drunk people. There were even a couple of times where I went out completely sober and let me tell you, I most definitely do not recommend doing that if you have a low tolerance of people.

However, my main issue is when people judge me for deciding to stay in rather than go out with them. Either it's that I'm "boring," "never hang out with them," or "don't have any friends." I've definitely gotten some other neat comments here and there but it all boils down to the fact that I'm weird for not going out. Or alternatively, it's that I'm getting judged because I don't like to drink.

Well news flash: people do not have to drink, nor do they have to go out, in order to have fun!

There are so many reasons that I could state for why I don't want to drink or why I don't want to go out. If I were to go out, then I'd have to also dress up, I would have to do my makeup, and then I would also have to drink for extended periods of time. Worse off, I'd have to either walk a good distance to get to the clubs or I'd have to pay for an Uber, both of which I really do not want to do.

On top of that, I am also quite the lightweight. It tends to happen when you weigh 90 pounds. As a result of that, when I drink, I do so carefully. I drank slowly and one drink at a time. All my friends want me to chug it down but that's a no.

Most nights, I just want to stay in and watch a couple of movies, read a book, or even just relax. I'm the only one out of my three roommates to have a job. So besides going to school already, I also work multiple shifts a week. I'm tired and on my days off, I just want to relax and do my own thing.

I'm not out here saying I never go out or anything like that, I do once in a blue moon.

So for those of you who read this and felt my pain, then welcome to the club. But in reality, let me tell you, I do love Tallahassee and I love Tallahassee's nightlife.

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Dear Mom and Dad, You Don't Understand What College Is Actually Like In The 21st Century

I can skip class. I can leave early, and I can show up late. But, ya see, I am not doing that.

College is not what you think it is. I am not sitting in a classroom for six hours listening to a professor speak about Shakespeare and the WW2.

I am not given homework assignments every night and told to hand them in next class.

I do not know my daily grade for each of the five classes I am taking, and I don't know if my professor even knows my name.

College today is a ton different than how it was 20+ years ago.

I go to class for about maybe three hours a day. Most of my time working on "college" is spent outside of the classroom. I am the one responsible for remembering my homework and when my ten-page essay is due.

I can skip class. I can leave early, and I can show up late. But, ya see, I am not doing that. I am a responsible person, even if you do not think I am.

I do get up every morning and drive myself to class. I do care about my assignments, grades, my degree, and my career.

I spend a lot of time on campus having conversations with my friends and relaxing outside.

I am sick of older generations thinking that us millennials are lazy, unmotivated, and ungrateful. While I am sure there are some who take things for granted, most of us paying to get a degree actually do give a s**t about our work ethic.

Dear mom and dad, I do care about my future and I am more than just a millennial looking to just get by.

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How To Stay Mentally Healthy In College

Our mental health is just as important as our physical health.


Staying healthy in college seems really, really hard to do. Classes, friends, clubs, and the whole fact of living by yourself can create a lot of stress and anxiety. Most students, and people in general, don't really know how to deal with stress or how to take care of themselves mentally, leading to unhealthy behaviors physically and mentally. If you don't take care of your mental health, your physical health will suffer eventually. Here are a few tips and tricks to help take care of your mental health:

1. Eat a well-balanced diet

Eating fruits, vegetables, grains, and other healthy foods will help you feel more energized and motivated. Most people associate eating a balanced diet as beneficial for your physical health, but it is just as important for your mental health.

2. Keep a journal and write in it daily

Writing can be one of the most relaxing and stress-relieving things you can do for yourself. Writing down the issues you are struggling with or the problems you are encountering in your life on a piece of paper can help you relax and take a step back from that stress.

3. Do something that brings you joy

Take some time to do something that brings you joy and happiness! It can be really easy to forget about this when you are running around with your busy schedule but make some time to do something you enjoy. Whether it be dancing, writing, coloring, or even running, make some time for yourself.

4. Give thanks

Keeping a gratitude log — writing what brings you joy and happiness — helps to keep you positively minded, which leads to you becoming mentally healthy. Try to write down three things that brought you joy or made you smile from your day.

5. Smile and laugh

Experts say that smiling and laughing help improve your mental health. Not only is it fun to laugh, but laughing also helps you burn calories! There's a reason why smiling and laughing are often associated with happiness and joyful thoughts.

6. Exercise

Staying active and doing exercises that energize your body will help release endorphins and serotonin, which both act as a natural antidepressant. Keeping an active lifestyle will help you stay happy!

7. Talk out your problems

All of us deal with stress and have problems from time to time. The easiest and probably most beneficial way to deal with this stress and anxiety is to talk it out with a close friend, family member, or even a counselor.

8. See a counselor, peer mentor, or psychologist

Just like it was stated in the previous point, it is beneficial to talk out your problems with a counselor. We all have issues, and it is OK to ask for help.

Keeping up your mental health in college can be a struggle, and it may be hard to even admit you are not mentally healthy. This is OK; you are not alone. If you want to see a psychologist or would like to learn more about mental health, there are resources. You can also take a self-assessment of your mental health. If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide, please, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

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