I always see and hear people talking to girls about the type of men they need to look for. Recently I have seen a lot of them saying "don't go after a man you have to chase." I understand the general concept of this statement, but it troubles me to some degree.

I do not think that you should have to put yourself down and wear yourself thin trying to please someone who is giving you no effort. I have done this for people all my life, and it only leaves you broken and empty. You need to know the limits that you can take.

But on the other side of this statement, I feel like in a relationship you chase every day. This doesn't necessarily have to be in a romantic form either. I think every relationship is like this. There are going to be days where you have to chase them. You have to fight for them. I don't think you should ever stop these things.

Chase sounds like a very abusive and scary word. The actual definition means to pursue something. When you hear it that way it sounds a lot less harsh. When you are pursing something, you are fighting for it. You will do anything and everything you can to get it. Every day we are pursing something. That boy you've had a crush on for years now. That dream job that you want more than anything. That body you've pinned on Pinterest.

So I do think you need to go after someone you have to chase,because I feel like love is pursuing each other. The health and wellbeing of each other. The happiness and success of one another. Never stop chasing the person or things you love. Chase them, run fast, and never ever give up.