Do it. Flirt with him. Laugh at his jokes a little too hard. Touch his arm when you are talking. Bat your eyelashes. Slide into his DM's.
Go ahead, flirt with my boyfriend.
This attitude might come as a surprise, but this is the way I see it.
I can't control your actions, and that would be silly to even try. I was the one who pursued James all those years ago, and so I would hope that others find him to be a catch. The difference is him and I are together now, and so I trust him to control his actions and to stay faithful.
I trust him enough to treat me, our relationship, and, most importantly, you with enough respect to not lead you on and be forthcoming with the fact that he and I are in a relationship. I trust him to draw those boundaries and to maintain them where he deems appropriate. He is a grown man and he should be able to judge these kinds of situations and then know how to conduct himself.
If he can't, then I owe you a big thank you.
Why would I want to be with someone who can't be faithful in the long run?
James and I have been together for over four years and about 2 of those years have been long distance.
While we are both still young and marriage is by no mean in our immediate future, the potential of getting married played a major role in our decision to continue our relationship long distance while we are both at college. We talk about our future a lot and we have made it clear that we both can see spending the rest of our lives together.
I am looking for a partner in life, and it would be better to know now if he is capable of doing all the things I talked about above now, rather than after we say "I Do" and start a life together.
By saying all of this, I am not saying that I never get a little jealous or am ecstatic when someone comes after him, but he is not my property. At the end of the day, I have bigger things to worry about.
I would much rather spend the limited time I have to be with and talk to him on pleasant thoughts instead of worrying about and fighting with him over the girl who comments heart-eye emoji's on his Instagram post.
