We all have that one friend that everyone thinks is overly 'flirtatious'.

You know the one. And if you don't know the one, it might be you.

And if you are that girl, this one's for you.

Some people accuse you of being flirtatious because you're always surrounded by guys. Some people accuse you because you have a billion guys that text you. You might even be accused of this by your own boyfriend who is just a tiny bit insecure.

I think that people tend to just take situations from an outside vantage point and don't look to see what you're feeling, but let me see if I can explain it, because I have been there.

I'm not being flirtatious.

I just have a crazy fear of being mean, and people hating me as a result. I'm not good at letting people down, even if it's someone that I don't really care for. You might tell me I don't have a backbone, and hell, maybe you're right. But my heart is so big that it kind of overtakes everything in me.

I cannot stand when people are mad at me.

I cannot stand letting people down. I cannot stand when people think I am being mean. As a result, I get accused of being overly flirtatious. The fact is; however, that I'm just being nice. I care too much, if we are being honest. While I may appear to be the person who doesn't actually care about anything, I actually care the most.

I get it.

Your boyfriend probably doesn't appreciate a billion people texting you, and I'm sure he's not super excited about you being accused of being 'flirtatious' either. He might've even accused you of this a few times. This is why it's so important to build a strong relationship and let your SO know that they are extremely important because you are nice to everyone, and you still picked them (not to sound conceited, but you are a gem). Make sure you're open and honest about conversations that you have. Try to cut down on the amount of unneccesary conversations, and let people know that you are in a relationship so you are there for them if you need them, but you're not open to anything else. You'll find that the people who don't need to be in your life exit as soon as you clear this up.

You're not being overly flirtatious, or even flirtatious at all. You're just being nice.