I really think I should be the last person telling anyone how to live their lives. At the same time, I believe if you want to go deeper inside of yourself, and be more peaceful, you should go on a spiritual retreat. Retreats are like magical journeys that open doors you never knew were there. They will change your life. Yes sometimes they can be expensive, but they are so worth going on. You meet people who are struggling in areas of life that maybe you can help with, or they can spit words of wisdom. It really is something that is unknown, and I think that is why most people do not go on them.

My last retreat was in Santa Fe New Mexico. I had met a breast cancer survivor, a recovering meth addict, a sever car accident survivor, and many more souls. They all had such powerful things to say to me about life, and how to make sure that taking care of yourself, and being comfortable with you is the most important. All this stuff sounds so cheesy, but maybe that's why it gets ignored or pushed to the side. The feelings you might get when you think of something like this is fear, doubt, or ignorance. I am not saying you will feel this way, but you might, and I am sure those might be the reasons to not go.

Everyone has something in their life that is scary. We try to cover up with money, clothes, bodies, relationships, and so much more. If we all look like vogue, or are working with the people on wall street, then we will be happy, and have this life thing right, right? Well, I am not sure about that, all I can say is that my experience has been through experience and love. When you connect with a black female who identifies as a lesbian, you realize that you do not know everything. There are things that a book cannot teach you, and that you may not understand. I have learned to be patient, and to do my best to listen (through my experiences on these retreats). I really hope my words are opening your mind, I hope they are making you think instead of making you mad.

I really urge you to try something different tomorrow, maybe yoga or try a tea to help with anxiety? Do something that scares you, sign up for a 3 day retreat, find a group of individuals to go and have a cup of coffee with. Learn a new opinion, do not be afraid to be kind. Through it all these retreats have given me hope, and they have given me peace. I have lifelong friends who have my back no matter what happens, and I have theirs. I know things now that I do not know how I would get through situations without this knowledge. Give yourself a hug, and open your mind.