You don't owe him anything. Not a single thing.
This statement is bold, yes, but it's true. You don't owe guys anything. Guys sometimes act entitled to any part of a woman. I'm sorry men, but women aren't property. They're not tangible objects. They have feelings and emotions. They're masterpieces that are worth more than the Mona Lisa. You can look, but you can't touch.
When I mean girls don't owe guys anything, I mean they don't owe time, love, affection, intimacy, etc. If you are head over heels for a guy and are too scared to do the deed so to speak, you can say "no." If you encounter someone who asks for your number, you're allowed to not give it out.
If you want a physical relationship instead of an emotional one, it's your choice. If you don't want to be treated as a second option, you can break things off. If you wear revealing clothes, you aren't giving permission for a man to touch you. You don't have to justify who you are or your actions.
Women are people too. We deserve to be treated with respect.
Everyone has the right to choose what they do with their lives, and who they want to be, regardless of their gender or gender identity; this also includes romantic relationships, friends with benefits, or everything in between. So why is it that in our society we harass women when they make choices for themselves?
Women are beautiful. Women are strong. Women are courageous. Women shouldn't be thought of as incompetent or inferior. Women shouldn't be tossed aside, silenced, or not taken into consideration.
I'm not writing this article to bash on men and be an extreme feminist. There are men that understand the power of women. But, as a society, this is something we need to work on. Feminism stands for equality of both genders. I'm all for women's and men's rights.
There's so much more to women than looks.
Don't be afraid to walk with confidence. Don't be afraid to have a brain. Don't be afraid to have a voice. Don't be afraid to be a force of nature. There is going to be someone who will waltz in unexpectedly who will value you. He will think you're a gift - the greatest thing that ever happened to him. Keep this man in your life.
When dating, go in with this mindset of not owing anyone anything because you don't have to. It makes it easier. I'm starting to learn that myself. It's a work in progress for me because it can be difficult to not worry so much about what people think. This also goes for other aspects of life as well.
It can be difficult to encompass this into your lifestyle, but it comes with time. You're a diamond who doesn't need to be treated like coal. You're worth is so much more than a guy's opinion of you. All that matters is what you think of yourself, and what matters most to you.
Stick to your guns ladies, and trust your gut. You are you, and nobody can take that away from you. This may sound like nonsense, but it isn't.
