I’m just like you. I’m sitting at home checking social media to see more pregnancy pictures, engagement announcements and relationship updates. My friends had a baby this past weekend, my co-worker is planning her daughter's 3rd birthday party and a girl in my class is planning her Bora Bora honeymoon — it feels like I could go on forever.
I’m here, in my living room, drinking wine and complaining about needing to do laundry before the weekend. I have a difficult time planning a date for next Saturday, let alone something years in advance. I can’t even imagine having a child relying on me for dinner every night or a wedding that needs months worth of planning. And that’s ok.
It’s ok because life isn't some predetermined mold that we are all required to follow. There isn't a handbook, step-by-step instruction manual, age requirement or script that says if we are doing life right or wrong.
So why are we looking around at the friends who seem to be moving faster than us, hitting milestones before us or just generally being in a mindset we can’t relate to— and wondering if something is wrong with us?
We have to stop worrying about speeding up our lives just because we’re not getting married or having babies at the same time as those around us. Those are amazing moments in a woman’s life— but they come at their own speed.
Take the time to appreciate having time for yourself, because one day you might not be the center of your own attention. Enjoy the relationships surrounding you now, whether it's with your friends or just dating your boyfriend, because both of these will be life changing times in your life. Focus on finding your passions, education, career path and a healthy lifestyle, instead of rushing to mold your life into a remake of someone else's story.
We have to remember to enjoy the moment of life that we’re in, without feeling like we’re missing out on something else. Life wouldn't be unique to each individual if we were doing all the same things at the same time, take your time and do it your way.
