Be a Girl's Girl

"Boys are so much easier to be friends with. There's no drama."

I've heard this phrase from countless girls since right around the beginning of middle school, and I am just as guilty of saying it. There comes a point where we all get sick of the emotions and drama coming from our girl friends. So we turn to boys, the less dramatic ones. As I have gotten older, gone to college and joined a sorority, I have learned exactly how important it is to invest in your girl friends.

Yes, boys can be less dramatic, a little tougher maybe. You probably won't have to deal with them crying over a breakup every other week, but there's an infinite amount they can't give you. Being in a sorority will probably teach you these lessons quicker than you ever thought possible.

As much as we'd all like to claim we never have problems, we do. I promise that your best girl friend will be the one to get The Fault In Our Stars and a tub of your favorite ice cream when you need it. I promise she will be the first to threaten to beat up the boy who broke your heart. I promise she will be the one wiping a tear from your eye and pulling you out of bed for a fun night out with friends. She will definitely be the one laying in bed with you as you cry and putting your makeup back on when you have no energy to do it yourself. She'll be the one making you laugh, crying with you and finding the exact way to make you feel a little better each day.

It is far from true that all girls are dramatic and all boys are insensitive. It is painfully obvious a girl will embrace you with compassion and support when you need it most. Don't push away the girl you call your best friend because she is too dramatic or doesn't appreciate you all the time. Wait until you really need someone, and watch as she magically transforms into the exact person you need at that moment.

A sorority is a bond of sisterhood, right? A group of girls that will be there for you through everything. A group of girls who will pick you up when you fall down and cry on your shoulder from time to time. It is an endless support system; the gift that keeps on giving. So, take advantage of it. Learn as much as you can from the girls around you and appreciate every second you have with each and every one of them; each one can teach you something unique.

Back to the quote that started this all...

"Boys are so much easier to be friends with. There's no drama."

Guy friends are important for so many reasons. They provide balance and tough love you need every once in awhile, but your girl friends may just be the ones to get you through something you never thought you'd get through. Don't write them off just because you want to take the easy way out.

Lastly, be the friend you want to have in your life. Go to endless lengths to make someone's day and be the shoulder to cry on and the ear that listens, but never be afraid to accept that from someone else either.

"You get what you give, but also what you're willing to take." -Sarah Dessen