Girls Date Jerks And Those Nice Guys Will Always Finish Last
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Girls Date Jerks And Those Nice Guys Will Always Finish Last

Don't act desperate, we don't want your heart handed to use on a silver platter.

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Girls Date Jerks And Those Nice Guys Will Always Finish Last
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“You’re the most beautiful girl I've ever seen. You're perfect, I mean really perfect. I can't see myself being with anybody else.”

Believe it or not, no girl actually wants to hear these things on a first date, or a second, or even third. Don't get me wrong that's so sweet and I'm totally flattered but really slow down.

I'm not going to say I'm an expert on dating but I do pretty much have a Ph D. in dating crappy guys and I would never give a guy like this a second date, and most girls wouldn’t.

Unfortunately, I know what you all are thinking, that I'm crazy, but it's true, most girls date jerks. We date the exact opposite of what we probably should.

“I'll call you tomorrow, okay babe,” but he never calls. “You're the only girl I want,” but his Tinder is blowing up. Or my personal favorite, “I'll never make you cry, I'm not that type of guy,” as you're laying face down on your bed after finding out he was with his ex all evening.

I sound bitter, I'm not, I'm simply here to share the logic behind girls dating choices.

Now there are several differences between a jerk and your average 'Nice Guy". You might think that the term 'Nice Guy' really means nice guy but don’t be fooled.

Don’t get me wrong, not only do they understand and respect you but they also understand and respect themselves, and you want a guy who treats himself right. These are the type of guys who probably have a good mother figure or sisters in their house who show them just how to treat a girl, gentle, kind, and respectful.

They also know the number one rule of dating, the girl is always right. Nice guys know how to apologize, but that doesn't mean that they aren't manipulative.

They know how to use there, what I call “Nice Guy Charm” to get what they want. They take exactly what girls want to hear and use it to there advantage.

Ever hear a guy say something like "I just want to treat a girl the way she deserves" or "if you were my girlfriend I would spoil you." Even, "I wish I could find somebody as great as you."

Nice guys also tend to lack reality. They go and throw around the word 'forever' like I use "k" over text. Boys before you ask me to marry you please realize the servility of it.

The last downside to a nice guy is that they know they are a nice guy. They are willing to take you to dinner and a movie and pay for it all. But would you rather pay for yourself or get paid for and hear about it all evening?

Now I get that I'm roasting the nice men community of the world but I'm not saying jerks are a good idea to date. They have their own set of flaws as well.

First off, if a guy doesn't want to commit but he still wants to do things a dating couple does, that pretty much automatically makes him a bad guy. This is what the male species call a 'thing'.

This is the benefits of a girlfriend without telling his friends he is tied down. He would like to find pleasure in you but also wants to find pleasure in 5 other girls.

Jerks excuses are always not their own problem! "This would work but the distance is too hard" even though you thought 38 minutes wasn't that bad. "I'm just getting out of a relationship" even though it was three years ago, he just still isn't over it.

Or my very favorite of all, "My last girlfriend really 'DAMAGED' me", well...I AM NOT HER!!!

Honestly, I couldn't tell you exactly why girls like jerks or why we go for them but I'll try to break it down in a way that sort of makes sense.

First of all, we always want what we can't have, we love the little game of chase we have to play. Everything you accomplish in life feels better when you work for it. It's more rewarding that way.

Second of all, unpredictable and spontaneous guys are sexy. One minute you're arguing and another he is kissing you. I'm not saying it fixes the problem but who's thinking about the problem then?

Lastly, we think we can change them. When girls get a guy who used to be a player, to calm down and change his ways for her, well that the largest accomplishment there is. Jerks are our potential project and that just goes back to working for our accomplishments.

Now here is the big question everybody is probably asking, what happens to all the nice guys? Do nice guys really finish last? Well to answer your question, yes they do.

Sorry boys we probably won't figure that one out till we are older looking for a potential husband or father. Until then, if you're a good guy looking for a girlfriend, don't be so clingy, we need space. Don't act desperate, we don't want your heart handed to use on a silver platter, we like to work for things.

We may be crazy boys and we may be total hypocrites for saying we want one thing but going for another, but we will mature out of our bad boy loving phase. Trust me, we really only date bad boys, but for all those nice guys who think they finish last, your day is coming.

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