What is confidence? Liking your outfit of the day? Having a good hair day? Do you have confidence when your makeup is on point?
Today, society has twisted the definition of confidence making girls more self-conscious than they should be. Unfortunately, girls are adopting ideas or "body goals" that society has pushed to be the ideal. These ideals change from time to time, but why? Why is it that a girl can meet an ideal one year and be considered attractive then a few years later she's not as attractive because there is a new body ideal. Is a girl's confidence supposed to be based off of those ideals?
I've been there. I'm still there. I compare myself to girls I know and even strangers that walk by. Why? Do I think that by comparing myself to them something magical will happen and I'll suddenly have that smaller waist I've wanted? As much as I sometimes wish that could happen, I don't need that to happen. No girl does, but what do we do to avoid feeling that way?
We cannot continue to try to be someone or something we are not. Embrace who you are, each and every detail makes you unique and it may sound cliche, but it makes you, you. Why change that?
As much as you may want to be full of self-confidence every day, it will vary. Some days are going to be harder to get through, you may not look your absolute best everyday and that is okay. Pick who you need in your life, not who you want. Pick the people who will pick you up on the hard days. Let go of the social media and societal ideals. Eventually you'll stop comparing yourself and putting yourself down which will lead to noticeable difference in your happiness. You cannot base your self-confidence off of how many likes you get on Instagram or any other social media. Be the person that makes you happy, not who makes everyone else happy. At the end of the day, you have to be happy with who you are because that will be the driving force behind you as you continue to grow and mature as a person. Don't give up, keep working on it. Embrace your qualities and you'll gain the self-confidence you need.
