Our world puts this label on guys that they shouldn’t cry, show emotion, love, or be vulnerable and I want nothing more than to put that outlook on guys to rest. It is okay for a guy to have emotions, feelings, and to love someone. We were created to love each other so deeply and to give ourselves to people. We’re not supposed to run from love, we have a human desire to love and be loved, so stop running from it.

We’ve all heard the saying “team no feelings” or heard a guy talk about feelings like they’re a death sentence. My question to guys is this: when did having feelings become not cool? When did caring about someone besides yourself become this horrible thing?

To the guys who think that it is OK to play with a girl’s heart like it’s a toy, for the sake of this poor girl’s sanity, just stop. Obviously your ego matters more than the girl who is bending over backwards just to please you. It’s okay, because she deserves so much more than you. You won’t allow yourself to feel, you won’t let down your walls, and you are the problem. Not her. So stop playing games and stop messing with her emotions and convincing her that she’s the problem.

But I’m not here to stereotype every single guy and assume they are horrible, because that wouldn’t be fair.

To the guys who accept that they are human and are OK with catching feelings, God bless you. We need more of you in this overly populated F-Boy world. I can’t encourage you enough to stay the way you are and to not let anybody influence you to change. Be the guy that cries when you really want to. Open up, and allow yourself to fall in love. When a guy openly talks about his faith, talks about something/someone with complete happiness, or show genuine emotion, it makes me so happy and gives me reassurance that my Derek Shepherd is still somewhere out there.

As a girl with a big heart, it is scary to put yourself out there because of how guys are. You realize very quickly how easy it is for a guy to not care and walk away, never looking back. It’s not fair to feel so much and get nothing in return. It’s not fair to convince yourself your flawed because of a guy. “It is both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so deeply."

I realize now what I want and what I don’t. I don’t want someone who runs if I start liking them, or who runs because I’m not new anymore. I don’t want someone who is temporary. I want someone who pushes me to be my best self. I want someone who knows what kind of coffee I like because they care enough to pay attention. I want someone who I can go to crying about my bad day. I want someone who loves my laugh (even when I snort). I want someone who is okay with how much I over complicate things and will tell me to “shut up” when I’m over thinking. Most importantly I want a guy who show me his true self. His thoughts, emotions, fears, I want the side that nobody knows about.

So guys, be the guy that is different, allow yourself to let go of who the world is telling you to be or telling you how to feel. Be yourself.

Breaking down your own personal walls isn't easy. Becoming vulnerable to someone else isn't easy. But showing genuine feelings to another person shouldn't be a task, it should be a want, a want to make that person feel loved, wanted, and accepted by YOU. There's no easy way out of feelings, the truth is this: it's either going to work out or it's not. You're risking a new heart break every time you start over, and that's okay.

“Always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think and twice as beautiful as you’ve ever imagined.” – Dr. Seuss