There is nothing wrong with you.

It is normal to get hurt and feel like you are the one that is flawed. It is normal for your confidence to get shook up a bit. Maybe it was over a guy. Maybe he hurt you or knocked you down. Maybe your heart is completely broken right now because of him. Maybe he left for someone else, and you do not know why.

Here you are just going through your day, just trying to get through it without crying. You should know that it is not your fault. It is nothing you have done wrong. It is nothing you said. It is not that flaw you obsess over. I know you wish there were things that you could change about yourself.

All of us have insecurities, but it is how you overcome them that matters.

If you were this or that or looked different, maybe things would have worked out in your favor, but you cannot live in a world thinking what if. All we have at this moment is what you are, and it is your job to own that.

It is your job to find that confidence, even if it is shaken a bit.

I am here to tell you that there is nothing you need to change about yourself because if he were the right person, he would see your value and see how lucky he is.

It is his loss, not yours.

You have to understand. It is his loss. You are not the one who lost something. I know you do not think that though. I know that you are hurt and vulnerable and struggling a bit. But it will be okay. Your whole life will be okay!

Sometimes when things end, instead of pointing at the other person thinking,"Wow, you are an idiot," we point to ourselves and struggle to walk away with grace. We say and do things in desperate attempt to win them back, but anyone who is worth it does not ever need to be won over. You do not need to convince someone you are worth it. You are worth it. You are beautiful. You are perfect the way you are. I would hate to see you change because someone does not understand that.

Your only flaw is in your confidence

People are mean, but sometimes we are meaner to ourselves. Sometimes we are harder on ourselves than we should be. Sometimes we criticize, analyze and break ourselves down far worse than anyone else can.

You have to get to a point where you are building yourself up so high that if anyone were to walk away, you continue on your path and let them go on theirs. Never alter anything about the way you live your life, in attempt to keep someone around. If someone does not want to stay, forget them. That is the attitude you should have right now if someone hurt you.

I believe that relationships ending and how you respond to such things can teach you a few things. If you are a mess and cannot function, it is normal. If you think you only matter because of someone else, that is when you have to re-evaluate your relationship with yourself.

Confidence is tricky sometimes, but you should not only be confident in yourself when you are loved by someone else. No matter what is going on in your life or whoever is unkind, the number one relationship you can rely on is yourself. The relationship with yourself will affect the relationship you have with others.

If you still are shaken up a bit, if you are heartbroken, if you think you are not going to get through this you will. Sometimes the answer comes from within you.

Everything will be okay.

You are going to come out of this stronger, more beautiful, and more confident than ever. I know you do not think that now but I can promise you one thing, the moment you realize your self-worth and look at your reflection with the confidence you deserve, you will be his biggest regret. When that happens, he will come back, but you will not even want him anymore.