In response to https://www.theodysseyonline.com/chicken-nuggets-n...
I’m the type of girl who loves spending time with my significant other. Whether it’s in our dorm rooms listening to records and playing video games, to going out to a nice restaurant and spending the evening roaming around campus, I am content with either. You see, I’m the kind of girl who just wants to be around you. I don’t need fancy gifts and fancy dates all the time to be satisfied. I don’t need you to spend an absurd amount of money to prove your love. I don’t need a 1950s love – I enjoy the love I have in the present day.
Don’t get me wrong, receiving flowers and getting dressed up for a date is nice, and when my boyfriend and I do it, it’s wonderful. However, I’m not going to base my relationship with him off of that. My boyfriend will take me out on a few dates every month, and will even buy into holidays, like Valentine’s Day. We’ll go explore different parts of town, go bowling, go record hunting, or grab coffee together. Going out on dates is nice, but it’s not the most important aspect of our relationship.
I love being able to go to his dorm with no makeup on and lazy Sunday clothes. I love being able to watch cheesy movies or shows with him and eat pizza. I love being able to sit down and read a book while he plays video games. I even love eating chicken nuggets with him and watching Netflix. Because, to me, the activities we do don’t define our relationship. Just because we choose to stay in doesn’t mean we don’t love each other. Just because he doesn’t buy me flowers for every single date doesn’t mean he doesn’t love me. It means we enjoy being around each other.
Today’s love isn’t just hanging out and hooking up. It’s not meeting Tinder matches in a back alley and never talking to them again. Do people hook up? Yeah they do, and that’s not going to stop anytime soon. But that doesn’t define every single millennial relationship. It’s not always about having sex and going your separate ways. It’s not always staying on the couch and letting someone talk you into doing something you have no desire of doing. Millennial relationships are more than that – if you look around, you’ll see millennials at restaurants and going out on dates. What they do behind closed doors is nobodies business but theirs.
Another thing, I don’t need my boyfriend to treat me all of the time. I spoil him too, because he deserves it. Girls shouldn’t have this expectation that their significant other needs to pay for everything – we can pay for it, too. There have been multiple times where I’ve casually paid for our bowling date or our food at restaurants. I’ve surprised him with records of his favorite bands “just because.” Why? Because in this generation, it’s not the man’s job. Why can’t we spoil them? Why is it such a high expectation for them to pay for everyone? Times are changing, and as much as girls love being spoiled, I know guys enjoy it as well.
I am sick of girls expecting everything to be perfect, because it will never be. The things we are exposed to on the Internet are nice, but that’s not your relationship. If you want something or expect something, be open with your partner, and talk to them about the things you’d like to be surprised with. Or, better yet, do those things for them. Just keep in mind that a relationship isn’t based on how much money you spend on one another – it’s the emotional connection, bond, and love you make and have with your partner. If you don’t have that emotional bond, money won’t be able to fill in the gaps where you feel empty.
Let us raise the standard for love, and stop finding worth in money. Start finding worth in the bond you have with your best friend, and love what they do for you.
