I don't know what I'll be doing in 10 years. I don't know what I'll be doing tomorrow. I don't know what career I want to go into. I don't know what major to choose and stick with. I don't know when I want to get married and have kids. I don't even know if I want to get married and have kids at all. I don't know what outfit to wear today. I don't even know whether I want pepperoni or cheese pizza for dinner. Okay, maybe that last one was a little cheesy. Get it? Cheesy.
Seriously, though, I have no idea about anything in my life and you know what, that is okay. It's okay to not know sometimes. There is no rule book for life, no guidelines that we are meant to follow in order to be successful, so there is no need to plan every little thing out or to stress over the fact that you have nothing planned out at all. Life is a lesson in itself. You are going to make mistakes, you're going to make the wrong choice. You are going to fail sometimes, more so than you may think.
Failure may be perceived as a bad thing but it's not. Failure is necessary because with failure comes wisdom and success. Even if you do try to plan your life out, you never really know if it is going to go exactly as you planned. Life throws massive curveballs at you and sometimes they're unavoidable and the best thing to be when that happens is adaptable. The best thing any person can do in their life is not to plan exactly how you want it to turn out but to be accepting to change.
If you accept change then life will be much easier whether you planned it or not.
When I started college some three years ago, I had absolutely no idea what I was doing. I started as an education major because that's what I wanted to do, or so I thought, until the first day of my very first education class. The first thing our teacher asked us to do was to write down why we wanted to be a teacher. Seems easy enough, but as I looked down at the paper, with my pen in hand, I started to sweat. I realized that day that I didn't know what I wanted to do and it terrified me. The only thing I did know, though, was that I didn't want to be a teacher, so I left that class and never went back. That semester I was also taking a sociology class that I enjoyed, so I changed my major to sociology for a while. I realized that wasn't for me either, so needless to say I ended up changing my major four more times after that.
I can say from personal experience that I was petrified at the fact that I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life. You feel as though you only have so much time to decide, and once you decide on something you are stuck with that decision forever, but what I have learned throughout my time as an indecisive college student is that you are never stuck with a decision forever. You can always change your mind and you actually learn by doing so. You learn more about yourself. Life is a beautiful series of trial and error. If you don't enjoy something then just stop doing it and try something else. Life is way more fun when you don't know exactly what you're doing.
So to the girls like me that just don't know, don't stress. You will figure it out as you go.
