I find myself every week trying to figure out what it is I want to write and what would most people my age would relate to and actually read. Then I realized something like this, looking into the life of my particular age group of young women is what I would read. So I present to you a trial of sorts: "Girl Chat."

I want to sum up a week full of current events and what this means for us as young women with the exceptional boy here or there lol. So, without further delay, here is Girl Chat number one.

This week, I decided to do some soul searching and also try some new things. I'm sure, like most of you reading this, you have had that nagging voice that, let's be honest, sounds a lot like mom or dad telling you what you should do and shouldn't do and then that little light buld that looks like it floated right from the upside down telling you to try something new.

Well, this week, my something new was meeting new people and truly getting to know them. Seeing as how I have a nonexistent social life, I got to hang out with some pretty cool girls and reacquaint myself with some old friends in the process. I put myself in this tricky situation in my pursuit to prove to myself that I could do it.

I have made a seemingly big choice in my quest and ended up getting burned. But you know what? People fall and scrape themselves all the time, that's not the issue. The problem starts right at your reaction: will you cry and complain and make a big fuss or will you pick up yourself off that pavement and get back on the horse?

I've realized that my generation either doesn't understand that relationships don't exactly have to intimate or that intimate relationships can change to a great friendship. These things don't equal rejection they just mean that things, feelings, relationships constantly change without an explanation. This is something I had to struggle with this week.

I took it upon myself to conduct a social experiment on a well-known social app to try to understand the relationship stigma in the males of my generation. The questions I had were: is the idea of committing an irrational fear in today's youth? Will they really say anything to give young girls that false hope of security in order to achieve a common goal? The answers to these questions could have an exceptional amount of details and psychological insights, but I'll keep it to a simple "yes" and "no" for both.

On the stance of commitment, a young man I spoke to told me that most young men today have this irrational fear that they will miss out on a chance to be with the best of the best. Often, they will skip over a great woman because of this, but, he said, most men do want to commit. As for the age-old question: "do men really tell you what you want to hear?" The answer is yes because there is a goal that most men are game for but not due to the commitment situation.

From this experience, I learned that I, as a woman, am allowed to change my mind and speak to whom I want, when I want and how I want. Nobody owns me. I belong to me and no one else on this planet.

You are allowed to feel what you feel and not apologize for it. You make choices that suit you and only you. You do not owe anyone an explanation. You are allowed to be who you are. In the words of the great Eleanor Roosevelt, "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent".

I'm beside myself every time I find myself apologizing or feeling about something I didn't even do. I am allowed to be who I am and you should too.

Women's Quote of the week:

“...her wings are cut and then she is blamed for not knowing how to fly.”
― Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex