Best Gifts For Your Depressed Girlfriend
Start writing a post

Best Gifts For Your Depressed Girlfriend

& others who need some love

Best Gifts For Your Depressed Girlfriend

Are you in a holiday pickle wondering what to get your gal this season because the only answer she'll give when you ask what she wants is, "my sanity?" Well, this is the article for you (and her, who is probably too depressed to care to make a list for Santa this year).

If your girl is like me, all she'll say she wants is love and appreciation, so how better to show your love and appreciation than with the things she really wants, but just can't stay awake enough to tell you?

1. Hugs

Honestly. Hold her tight because this time of year is the hardest. Well, really, you should hug her all the time because mental illness is really fuckin' tough all day, every day, all year. But if your girl is needy AF like me and needs a constant hug, consider giving her a (big + comfy) sweater covered in your scent that she can hug herself in when you aren't around.

2. An Empowering Pillow/Throw Blanket/Tapestry

LBR (Let's Be Real), your girl probably spends a lot of time in her room, hiding from the anxieties of the world around her. Motivate her! You don't even have to spend big bucks for this (though websites like Amazon, DenyDesigns and society6 will not fail you). I made a tapestry on the cheap with an old curtain I found at a thrift store, some acrylic paint, and inspiration from the Rupi Kaur's Milk and Honey (pictured below).

3. Somethin' Fuzzy

Get her a whole fucking barrel filled with peach skin. Or don't. There's this thing called dissociation that happens to a lot of people with depression, anxiety, PTSD, etc., and one of the strategies my therapist told me about was having something for each sense that helps bring the dissociates back to reality. So grab her fuzzy socks, a scarf, a fuzzy blanket, a small teddy bear, or even one of those cute keychains with a big puffer ball on it. It'll help her more than she'll tell you.

4. Some #sad or #heartful albums on that sweet, sweet vinyl

Nothin' feels more indie than crying while flipping to the B-Side, trust me on that. Sometimes, allowing the sadness to be expressed through song is more helpful than keeping it in, so hold your girl while her tears stream gently. (If you need suggestions, try Bright Eyes, The Head and The Heart, or Sufjan Stevens)

OR if you're not feeling like enabling her tears or the price that comes with vinyl, make her a sick playlist / mix tape with some funky tunes that she can vibe for those times when she's feeling good!

5. Splish, Splash, Some Stuff for the Bath!

Depression really makes it tough to do basic human activities, especially if those activities mean upholding a hygienic standard. Sometimes depression might keep ya girl from showering for an extended amount of time that they don't necessarily want to admit. How to fix this? Get them excited about the prospect of cleaning themselves with a fun new loofah, or some sensual sugar scrub. Better yet, get her a bath bomb or gemstone soap with a little treat in it like the ones from or Trick your girl into getting clean; they have to use the soap/bathbomb in order to get a ring or charm, or whatever is in the middle of the 'lil guy. Is your girl not into jewelry? There are POKEBOMBs with COLLECTIBLE POKEMON TOYS. I'm hype about it, in case you can't tell, and your girl probably will be too.

6. Essential Oils/Candles

If your girl does not have an essential oil diffuser, get her one. They are incredible for migraines, stress, or just for hiding the scent of the trash that she hasn't taken out in a week. Not to be a complete and total plug for Fragrant Jewels, but they also have candles with rings in them as well as the aforementioned bath bombs. Does her depression come with a dose of high anxiety? Smack her in the nostrils with some bergamot, lavender, or sandalwood to calm her senses. Is she fatigued? Peppermint, patchouli, and jasmine could be a good way of relieving some exhaustion. Is she lonely when you're gone, but you have to get stuff done? Roman Chamomile does wonders for those who can't cope with solitude.

7. Delivery Service Wine

Wine delivery? Yes please! All the glory of indulgence without the trip to the liquor store or grocery mart. There are subscription services like winc that will deliver wine straight to your girlfriend's doorstep, all she needs to do is prove ID and sign. Make sure you know what she likes-- you can take tests to discover what her "wine type" is. Or be adventurous and try that sparkling red wine that she's never had. Just know that many of these subscriptions continue for an automated shipment every month, so pay attention to what you're signing up for.

8. ~Fancy~ chocolate

And I'm not talking no Hershey's basic bullshit (no offense @Hershey's). Get her some specialty bars like ones with caramel and sea salt, or honey and ginger. An assortment is always good for that variety, but make sure you're there with her to eat the cherry ones that she doesn't like. "Chocolate is metabolized by the body into serotonin, one of our most potent mood enhancing hormones"(thanks, wiki), but this is talking about pure dark chocolate, not the processed stuff.

9. A Homemade Self-Care Kit

This. Kit. Has. Everything. Or anything! Whatever you think would make your girl smile, bundle it up and stuff it in a basket. Some ideas for this would be: love letters for a bad day, a check-list system for all the things she has trouble doing (like showering, eating, waking up on time-- give her a packet of star stickers so she can reward herself for every time she does something difficult, like brushing her teeth or hair). Throw in some indulgences, like artisan teas or a list of things to watch on Netflix, maybe include a journal, and get ready for a day of snuggling and telling your girl that she's worth it, because we all know she is, but she might not.

*** These gifts are totally non-gendered, I was just writing this from a point of what I, as a depressed girlfriend, would want for a gift. People that are not women are also faced with depression and I want this list to be as inclusive to them as it is to me. So don't just get these gifts for your gal, get them for your partner, your non-binary bestie, your boyfriend, your love. 'Tis the season, after all.

*** As an Amazon Associate, Odyssey may earn a portion of qualifying sales.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Photo by Jonathan Borba on Unsplash

I love listening to Christmas music just as much as the next person, but when I turn on my local holiday radio station each year, it just feels repetitive. No hate to musicians like Burl Ives or Nat King Cole, but Christmas music needs an update. Personally, I'm tired of the same "Let It Snow" and "Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas". So plug in your Christmas tree, make some hot cocoa, and listen to these amazing (and updated) holiday songs.

Keep Reading... Show less

With the holidays right around the corner, there are many things to look forward to. Time with family, friends, great food, overall seasonal joy... And now the fragrances from Jennifer Lopez.

Keep Reading... Show less

10 Christmas Songs For Your Festive Playlist

I have no shame in starting to feel festive super early.


All of these songs are definitely popular. However, I have the strong opinion that having the songs on your Christmas playlist be popular is extremely important. Having everyone sing to the songs is most of the fun; it adds to the festivity of whatever you're doing.

Personally, I love to bake cookies and hum along as I cannot sing and no one should ever hear me. Whatever you do for the holidays, enjoy your festive time and the season!

Keep Reading... Show less

10​​ Songs That Made It Onto My November Playlist

Another month of finding new music during unusual times


A new month means new music! Like each month, I've collected my top 10 new songs or discoveries into a playlist. This November didn't have too many new releases, however, I did find a few and a couple of new discoveries.

Keep Reading... Show less

7 Christmas Ideas For Couples That You Can Still Do In The Middle Of A Global Pandemic

The holidays are such a fun time to celebrate with loved ones; here are a few activities to consider being a part of during this Christmas season.

Photo by Hannah Busing on Unsplash

Whether it is a night in at home baking sweet Christmas themed goodies for Santa, or a night out exploring lit up neighborhoods, the holiday season should always be taken advantage of for cute activities!

Keep Reading... Show less

Every Track On Ariana Grande's 'Positions' Album Ranked

Ariana Grande has achieved major success with her new album and we're ranking every track.


Ariana Grande surprised fans in October, tweeting that her new album was being released. What followed was yet another number one peak on the Billboard 200 albums chart. The album's title track and lead single, "Positions," also hit number one on the Billboard Hot 100 chart.

With "Positions," Grande took a much more light-hearted approach than the confessional nature of its predecessor, "Thank U, Next." It was a welcome and refreshing change of pace. Now that the album has been out for a solid month, it's the perfect time to see how the songs rank.

Keep Reading... Show less

In the four Christmas' that I have spent with my boyfriend, I have realized one thing: boys are hard to shop for. Each year I have to rack my brain for gift ideas because when I ask my boyfriend what he wants for Christmas, he always says something along the lines of "nothing," which as a girl is hard to fathom since I literally give him a list each year before Black Friday.

After hours each year scouring the internet for the perfect Christmas gifts to get my boyfriend, I have come up with a pretty long and inclusive list. To help those girlfriends going through the same thing, I decided to put together some of the best gifts I have come across.

Keep Reading... Show less
Health and Wellness

10 Ways You Can Safely Enjoy The Holidays During The Pandemic

Even with a pandemic, there are still ways to celebrate.


It's almost December, which means that it's almost time for the biggest holiday season to arrive! However, it doesn't mean that COVID-19 has decided to disappear. According to the CDC, 147,840 new cases of COVID have been recorded in the last seven days.

States such as Kentucky have closed all of their restaurants, schools, and businesses until December. Some governors have started to advise caution when celebrating the holidays, too. You may be thinking, 'is there any way to really enjoy Christmas during the pandemic?' In fact, there are ways to still celebrate the holiday safely. Here are 10 ways that you can still enjoy the holiday season without canceling any of your plans.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments