I recently read an article, Getting Married Before 25 Is Like Leaving The Party Early.
First of all, I am personally offended by that analogy. It's actually kind of revolting. The idea that everyone has the desire to go out and date a lot and hook up and dance on people in clubs is disgusting. Not everyone wants to act like a college party girl until they're 30.
But in all reality, I'm not a bit surprised that this is a common view at in 2017. I remember when my dad first started noticing the numbers climb. He stated, "girls are waiting until they have a degree and a stable job before they settle down." It's funny that even from a middle-schooler's point of view, it bothered me.
There are many girls out there who had every intent growing up, to get married young- when they met the right guy and wanted to be committed to him. It was true for my grandma and my mom. So what changed? Feminism. The idea that the only way women could climb the social ladder is to put off a family to work and work and call men a problem or distraction.
I have some advice for those girls who have always intended on getting married young: Don't let society bully you into waiting.
But, a cautionary tale to those same girls. Don't let the idea marriage and a home stop you from chasing your dreams. Get a degree—married women can be in school. I can't emphasize that enough. I know girls who got engaged and married in college, but that doesn't mean drop out and start having babies that year. Also, don't get married just because you feel like it's the right thing to do. While getting married in your twenties might sound nice, being divorced by thirty isn't optimal. Remember that your brain is still developing until around age 25, counsel with your family.
Additionally, don't get your hopes up. We can't plan our lives to a "T" because it just might not happen that way. We've all seen the wonderful '90s movies about the girl who is about to turn 30 and hasn't met the man of her dreams yet. And her parents are constantly asking her if they'll ever get grandchildren. It'll turn out the way it's supposed to. I suppose my point is, let your life run its course and don't let society influence what is best for you or your future.
I hope some young men read this as well. For, I'm sure the social influence is hitting you as well. You don't have to stay a bachelor until you're old and tired of chasing women. Consider this, if you want a nice girl who to marry, she probably doesn't like the fact that you spent the past 10 years of your life with random women and in clubs. Also, the older you get, the less great girls are still on the market.
So, to everyone. Why don't you just stop worrying about others so much? Ladies who want to wait until their late '20s or '30s to get married, don't shame me and I won't shame you. It's your marriage. I don't think you should base it on society.
