What if we, as humans, could inherent the trait to be alone and happy? However, fortunately, and unfortunately, it is a necessity to be loved. And all of us can only be alone for so long, before we look outside ourselves. You need to have faith and create freedom. Have the freedom of speech to use our words and the freedom to follow your heart. I have learned to be patient, because rushing things only created chaos and ruined things. Appreciate what you have, before it's what you had. This 20th century generation, wants instant gratification and nothing is sacred anymore. We all blame it on society, but we are society.
Step 1: It all starts with YOU. Learn to accept, value and love yourself. Define your own worth and stop waiting on someone else to define it for you! Whatever you are ready for, you will attract. Get in the best shape of your life: mentally, physically, emotionally and psychologically. Go to the gym daily. Eat healthy foods and only have one cheat day per week. Drink tons of water. Read lots of books and get lost in the pages. Talk to people that aren’t your age. Everyone you meet is your teacher.
Step 2: Wait for the guy that motivates you. The guy who will encourage you when you feel like giving up and motivates you to have a relationship with God. The one that always respects you and opens door, pays for meals, but also respects your body as well. Your family has to love your partner and this one is definitely worth the wait.
Step 3: What do you want to do? There are so many things to do, before getting in a serious relationship: college, careers, get financially stable, traveling and just being single. When we all meet our future mate, we want to have everything going for us. I want to bring so much to the table and my partner to bring just as much. “You always want to be with someone that brings as much to the table as you do, if not more.”
Step 4: Be full of love and willing to be vulnerable. Have great empathy for your partner and be their shoulder to cry on. This person should be your best friend and lover. Patience is a virtue and be supportive, no matter how long it takes them to figure it out. If you truly care about this person, let them be. You get each other, no matter where you are or what you’re doing; you will have a blast. Love one another’s imperfections and be happy.
Step 5: Be honest with yourself and your partner. Don't keep secrets from one another. Honesty is also the best policy, in any sort of relationship. If you are hesitant to do something, think would I be okay with my partner doing this to me? Cause and effect: There is always a consequence to our actions good and bad.
Relationships bring lots of joy and laughter to someone’s life, but they can also bring a vast amount of much pain. Through two complete cycles, I have learned that one should not depend on a relationship to be happy. Moreover, happiness is an inside job, and it must come from within. Relationships require time, attention, maintenance and work. But what about yourself as an individual? The best advice my dad ever gave me: “Be a little selfish with your time and focus on yourself for awhile.” You will break hearts and get yours broken, but that is part of human nature. Loss which seems to be the opposite of love is a necessity in order to meet your true love.
