We all have that friend, or maybe you even are that friend, who is unable to friendzone a guy. This person fails to say no time and time again, causing her to become further trapped in this guy's life. If you are a guy reading this and have been friendzoned multiple times, I'm sorry and I feel for you, but at least she didn't continue to lead you on when she was never interested in the first place.
This is for all of the girls who fail to friendzone a guy they are not interested in.
Here's how it all plays out:
The semester just started and the guy who sits next to you in that one class flirts with you every chance he gets. He's a nice, decently attractive guy, but it is very apparent to you that this will never turn into anything. Nevertheless, he texts you on the reg, asks to grab dinner, and goes to the library with you after class pretty often. You keep telling yourself that he isn't interested and that he's just being friendly, until he expectantly kisses you. This is the part where you realize you screwed up and should have said something from the beginning, yet you continue to let it go, EVEN AFTER HE KISSED YOU.
If you've been in a similar situation please listen up. Things have gone too far. You need to stop flirting with him and just tell him that you aren't interested in him. Now I'm sure you're thinking, "But I don't want to be mean and hurt his feelings!" Okay, go ahead, continue to lead him on, but just know that when you eventually tell him you're not interested, or even worse, ghost him, he'll be even more crushed.
So what do you say?
This is the uncomfortable part. You want to stay friends, but sadly we can't promise that that will happen. Either way, you have to say something.
If you feel confident enough to just straight up say it, just leave it at, "I really like you and all, but I'm not interested in you like that. I think we're better off as friends."
However, chances are you don't want to say anything direct which is why you're still in this horrible position. There are a few things you can do that will hopefully get the message across to him.
1. Drop the friend card. Tell him how much you appreciate your friendship and having a guy friend.
2. Talk about other guys in front of him. However, this might just make him jealous.
3. Stop hanging out alone. Invite your friends to hang out with you two so that he can't make any moves. He'll eventually get the hint, but it may take a while.
Whatever way you choose to break the news to him, just know that you'll both be okay. He'll get over it. But do it sooner than later. Best of luck!!
