The Friends I Made In College Were Unlike Any Friends I've Had Before

The Friends I Made In College Were Unlike Any Friends I've Had Before

In the best possible way.

Unless you plan to go to a college with all your closest friends, you’ll have to come up with your own along the way. I would almost recommend that you don’t pick a school with everyone you’ve ever known and enjoyed. College isn’t just a home or a school, it’s an adventure and an experience. It’s OK to go on that adventure on your own.

I feel so lucky that I went to a big university all by myself so that I got the privilege of choosing new people for the new chapter in my life. It was so fitting that I would get a fresh start and, with that, become unbelievably close to some of the most special people in the entire world.

I expected that I would be able to meet people and get along with them and that my first year of college wouldn’t suffer by my being alone. I’m a friendly and accommodating person. However, I can also get shy and anxious, assuming people will eventually come to me or I’ll just miss out. I just really didn’t want to miss out on anything. I was heavily connected to my groups of friends back home and wanted a bond like that while away.

But as soon as I stepped into my dorm, something in me shifted in me and I wanted to be friends with anyone who would have me. I introduced myself and popped into every open door. It wasn’t until I went into my suitemates’ room where I felt instantly connected. I didn’t know it at the time, but they would become the two girls I would stay up all night with talking about anything to and that would be the room where I would do everything except sleep.

They’re always up for anything and are complete joys to be around. I told them everything and listened like never before. They told me their secrets and kept all of mine, rocked out to Nickelback with me like no one was watching, didn't mind getting Starbucks way too late at night and would wake me up if they knew I wouldn't get up for an exam on my own. They were honest and kind and more than I could have asked for.

They were the exact people I needed to feel comfortable in a scary place. But of course, everyone gets busy and we didn’t have every interest in common. The beauty of college though, is that it's so diverse that there’s someone for everyone and all their needs. You don’t even have to look very far; the perfect people could be right on the same floor of your residence hall.

You have the people who love to go out for dinner at midnight. The person who likes to go eat waffles at any time of day and go to peculiar concerts and football games. There are people who understood my workload better than anyone because they have the same major and they also happen to be insanely fun to be around because they like playing beer pong while baking cookies and they sing down the hallway at all hours. It’s all the weird things like that that I’ll miss terribly when I’m not living in a dorm.

These are the people who have no idea where you come from and they don’t care, because you’re all in the same place. It never matters how you got there and who you were before walking through the doors. You share everything from nail polish remover to information because someone always needs something. Everyone has a purpose and people in college have a good way of showing it.

Nothing could ever be as good as the friends I’ve had my entire life and that can withstand any distance and time apart. My best friend from home will forever be my absolute favorite person in the world, but I guess it’s good to know I was in good hands the past eight months.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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