From your standpoint, you might not see it. You don’t see your health deteriorating, your skin losing its glow, the bags under your eyes or even the raspiness of your voice. You can’t see the shine removed from your hair and the life that has been slowly sucked away from your addiction.

But I can.

Where I once saw a bright individual who could take on the world with the tip of their finger, I now see them slowing losing the ability to feel even their fingers. The talent and joy you bring to others and myself is being consumed by your new addiction. Where there once was life, now is emptiness.

I cannot vouch for being addicted to drugs, alcohol, porn, or whatever consumes someone’s soul to the point of breaking, but I’ve watched it, and being on the sideline makes me cringe. Watching someone you love slowly lose themselves in something that doesn’t benefit them hurts. It makes me want to pick them up and throw them out of it entirely. I want to be their “saving grace.” Sadly, the choice is up to them whether they want to change.

While I must watch from the sidelines I am always here. No matter the day, time, or hour, anytime you need me I will be there. During your brightest day or darkest hour. Whether it’s a phone call or a quick drive, seeing someone I love suffer will not suffice in my book. While I may not agree with the actions you are partaking in or the substances you abuse, I see the worth in your life and the glow you once possessed and I will try my best to regain that in you.

Life is precious, delicate, and trial filled. While things may be dark now, know the sun will rise another day and solace can be found. I’m no professional in the field of addiction recovery, I will gladly help you seek out the treatment you need. But only you, the person choosing the addiction can make the first step to total recovery.

Know I will not judge you in your actions, for everyone goes down their own life path. I will continue to love and want the best for you – even if that means standing on the sidelines being your personal cheerleader.

Above all, know that I’m not the only one cheering you on. There are support groups, survivors, friends, and even family members who will cheer you on as well. I believe in seeing the best in people, and I know this time in your life will pass and that glow will regain in your face once again. You aren't what you used to be and addiction shouldn't be allowed to take that away from you.

I love you and will gladly be your cheerleader on the sidelines if it means keeping you around another day.