12 Different Emotional Responses  From Teens Leaving For College

I Interviewed My Friends About Me Leaving For College, And I Was Shocked By Their Answers

Their answers made me laugh, cry and swell with joy.

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I see a lot of articles in which people interview their friends or significant others, and I've always wanted to write something like that. And as I was thinking about leaving for college and saying goodbye to my friends, it hit me.

I decided to interview my friends about me leaving for college, asking what they've learned from our friendship.

So, I called up a dozen of my friends and asked them if I could interview them. I asked them three simple questions. Their answers made me laugh, cry and swell with joy. I have the best friends in the entire world.

Question One: It sounds conceited, but will you miss me when I'm in college?

1. Yes, I can't even start to explain how much I am going to miss you. You have become one of my greatest friends and, in all honesty, you have become my family. I can't begin to express how much of an impact you have made on my life and how much you have helped me grow. Who's going to help me do that when you're gone?

2. Obviously. You're the best friend I could ask for.

3. No, I won't miss you. *laughing emoji* Of course I'll miss you.

4. Yes. I already do.

5. Yes, for sure. You are legit my best friend.

6. Yeah, I'll miss you.

7. Yes, ma'am, your sarcastic/goofy sense of humor is Redheads. You really care about your friends.

8. Yes, definitely.

9. Yes *crying emoji*

10. I can't imagine our youth group without you. I'm going to miss you so much.

11. Yes, of course!! There's going to be a really noticeable hole in youth group. :(

12. Duh. Most of my time was normally spent with you and when we don't see each other for a week I miss you so I can't really imagine a whole school year (without you.)

Question Two: What will you miss about me?

1. I will miss how caring you are. I will miss how you're always there for me when I need you, even it's to help figure out the pettiest of situations. I will miss how you have been like a big sister to me and how you always calm down my craziness when I'm freaking out. I will miss how we can be stupid together. I will miss seeing how evident your love for Jesus is every Wednesday and Sunday. Actually, I'll miss that heart for Jesus every day of the week because, girl, you shine your light everywhere you go, every day of the week. And I think that's what I'll miss most.

2. Your smile and love for Fitness Marshall.

3. I will miss the funny Vine quotes you make all the time. The way you can cheer someone up with your goofiness. Most of all, I'll miss how you're a true friend and you stick with a person through thick and thin, no matter what people put on you or how they treat you.

4. I will miss you always coming up to me and saying you had a new dream you had to tell me about.

5. Your personality, smile, laugh, stories and love. And hanging out with you.

6. A very charismatic and caring personality.

7. Everything I mentioned in the first question and your smile.

8. All the fun moments like quoting Vines, serious convos, and intense prayers, feel-good hugs with my bestie, and overall just memories...

9. You are super easy to talk to and I just love your fun, sassy attitude. I am going to miss hanging out with you and talking till 5 in the morning. You genuinely care for us and I'm going to miss someone that isn't afraid to step out and show someone how much they're loved. I'm going to miss your advice, too.

10. Everything, but specifically your amazing leadership qualities and how you're always there when we need you.

11. The way you make everyone always feel loved, comfortable, and included, even if you're not super close. Your kindness is always evident.

12. You talking about Broadway every five seconds.

Question Three: What have you learned from our friendship?

1. I have learned that people can start out thinking someone else hates them (i.e., you when you first met me) and then turn into the best of friends in just a short amount of time. I have learned that I cannot let anyone mistreat me, whether it be a cute boy or a mean girl. I have learned that even though I may be in the midst of the even the hardest of times, there is still a reason to smile. You have taught me all these things and more through our friendship, and I cannot thank you enough.

2. I've learned that even when our lives are rough, we can come to each other and smile for a little while. You've always managed to make me laugh when I felt like crying.

3. I learned that true friends stay together, that just because someone says something to make you dislike someone for a bit, you don't ditch them. You keep that friendship because that friendship is more important than the words someone says.

4. I learned that it doesn't matter who you are, but the relationships you make with people last forever.

5. I've learned true friends should encourage you to do good and that true friends actually roast each other because they like to make each other laugh.

6. I've learned not all short people are evil.

7. Redheads have a soul. :D

8. No matter what happens, trust God in all situations. Good seasons and bad, God is always in control. Servanthood to put the needs of the church and your friends above your own.

9. I learned that even though you may have known someone since you were eight and you live less than ten minutes away from them, that doesn't mean you're friends automatically. There's a difference between an acquaintance and a true friend. True friends genuinely care and pray for one another. I know our friendship will continue to grow, even though you won't be as close as you were.

10. The biggest thing our friendship has taught me is it's okay to be myself and that is doesn't matter what others think, it matters only what God thinks. That I should keep being who God made me to be and to seek Him with all my heart.

11. I have learned that God sends you exactly what you need exactly when you need it. Us becoming friends has really touched me and has helped me grow as a person. It also taught me to let my guard down and just be vulnerable with people in order to grow closer to them.

12. A lot. It's taught me about myself and caused me to grow in a lot of ways. The most important, though, is that I've learned I don't always have to do things alone and it's OK to lean on someone every now and then.

Thank you to each of my friends for letting me interview them. Your responses — and more importantly, your friendships —have meant so much to me. You have told me what you will miss about me and what our friendship has taught you, but I will never be able to express what I'll miss about each of you and what each relationship has taught me.

You each have a special place in my heart, and I'm going to miss you all greatly.

You're my best friends. I love you, guys. Family forever, no matter how many miles come between us.

Make sure you keep in touch!

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Working With People Who Are Dying Teaches You So Much About How To Live

Spending time with hospice patients taught me about the art of dying.

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Death is a difficult subject.

It is addressed differently across cultures, lifestyles, and religions, and it can be difficult to find the right words to say when in the company of someone who is dying. I have spent a lot of time working with hospice patients, and I bore witness to the varying degrees of memory loss and cognitive decline that accompany aging and disease.

The patients I worked with had diverse stories and interests, and although we might have had some trouble understanding each other, we found ways to communicate that transcended any typical conversation.

I especially learned a lot from patients severely affected by dementia.

They spoke in riddles, but their emotions were clearly communicated through their facial expressions and general demeanor, which told a story all on their own.

We would connect through smiles and short phrases, yes or no questions, but more often than not, their minds were in another place. Some patients would repeat the details of the same event, over and over, with varying levels of detail each time.

Others would revert to a child-like state, wondering about their parents, about school, and about family and friends they hadn't seen in a long time.

I often wondered why their minds chose to wander to a certain event or time period and leave them stranded there before the end of their life. Was an emotionally salient event reinforcing itself in their memories?

Was their subconscious trying to reconnect with people from their past? All I could do was agree and follow their lead because the last thing I wanted to do was break their pleasant memory.

I felt honored to be able to spend time with them, but I couldn't shake the feeling that I was intruding on their final moments, moments that might be better spent with family and loved ones. I didn't know them in their life, so I wondered how they benefited from my presence in their death.

However, after learning that several of the patients I visited didn't have anyone to come to see them, I began to cherish every moment spent, whether it was in laughter or in tears. Several of the patients never remembered me. Each week, I was a new person, and each week they had a different variation of the same story that they needed to tell me.

In a way, it might have made it easier to start fresh every week rather than to grow attached to a person they would soon leave.

Usually, the stories were light-hearted.

They were reliving a memory or experiencing life again as if it were the first time, but as the end draws nearer, a drastic shift in mood and demeanor is evident.

A patient who was once friendly and jolly can quickly become quiet, reflective, and despondent. I've seen patients break down and cry, not because of their current situation, but because they were mourning old ones. These times taught me a lot about how to be just what that person needs towards the end of their life.

I didn't need to understand why they were upset or what they wanted to say.

The somber tone and tired eyes let me know that what they had to say was important and worth hearing. What mattered most is that someone who cared was there to hear it.

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How To Cope With A Best Friend Breakup


Breaking up with a boyfriend is one thing, but breaking up with your best friend is a whole new level of heartbreak.

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We all know breakups can be tough, but when that breakup happens to be between you and your best friend, things reach a new level of heartbreak. I met my best friend junior year of high school after our Spanish teacher randomly assigned us to be partners; we struggled so much in that class but in the end, we truly became inseparable. When senior year rolled around we were still close as ever; people would often joke that we were sisters because we looked and acted so much alike. We would go on little dates together, go to parties together, and were always the first person we called when something "major happened."

When my best friend's boyfriend of four years cheated on her while we were spring breaking in Europe, it became my duty to make her feel better; I would randomly drop off flowers and little notes to her house, spend countless hours just listening to her cry and vent, and even stopped talking to people associated with her boyfriend so as to show my "support." All of these things were no big deal to me considering I loved this girl like a sister; whatever she needed I was there to give that to her.

Things soon took a sharp turn when we entered not only the same college but the same sorority. While I was struggling with the social aspect of FSU, my best friend soon found new best friends. When I started having major issues with my boyfriend, I would automatically text/call my best friend as she did with me, but instead of support, I got the sense that she was passive and uninterested. Our little dates and goofy inside jokes disappeared and reappeared between her and her new friends, and my comfortableness around her soon turned into insecurity.

Coming to terms with the fact that the girl I knew everything about is now basically a stranger was a hard one to overcome; I didn't want to accept the fact that my best friend decided it was time to find new ones. It's heartbreaking knowing that the special things you shared with a person are now being shared with others, and it's hard to accept the fact that you aren't wanted or needed by the one person you thought would be by your side forever.

Since school has ended I think I have accepted the fact that we're no longer what we used to be. Of course, it still stings when I see social media posts with her new, college friends, but I just have to remind myself that this is part of life and I just have to move on. I will forever cherish the memories I made with her, but it's time to acknowledge that they were made with someone in my past, not with someone in my present.

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