I know we all have those days where we get stuck in a funk, and feel like nothing is going our way. We feel vulnerable to the world around us and we feel like nothing will ever change. Or we have a good day, then all of a sudden begin to dwell on something that happened in the past and ruin our good day.
My advice to all of you is to stop dwelling on the past, stop thinking about all of the bad things in the present, and begin to look forward. The past is something that's already happened, and there is nothing we can do about it. Dwelling in the present isn't beneficial for you and it's not going to lead you anywhere.
For the present time, think about things you can do to ensure a better life for yourself, the people around, or even the world in general. Do things that will make the future brighter.
We spend so much time in the present thinking about things we wished didn't happen, or wish we had done differently, and it's the most unproductive thing in the world. Instead of taking those mistakes and being sad they happened, take them in and figure out what you need to do to make sure things turn out differently next time.
The past happened and unfortunately we can't change that, but I am a firm believer that all of our experiences, even our bad ones shape us into who we are as people. The person you were then is not who you are now, and the person you are now is not necessarily who you are going to be in the future.
The world is a constantly changing place, and humanity is a constantly changing along with it. We are all going to grow and age but if we are constantly stuck in the past and all the mistakes we've made our bodies will grow but our minds won't. Think about your parents, for example, I highly doubt they are the same people they are today that they were in college. They made mistakes, they had tragedies, they lived life, they learned and they are still learning.
No one will ever be a completely perfect human being, even the people who seemingly still have room for improvement. We are an adaptive species, as the world changes we must change with it in order to survive.
If you think about the person who you are today, think about how you treat people, and how they respond to you. Are you rude? Are you a doormat? Both of these are two opposite ends of the spectrum that don't fare well for either person at each end.
Don't think that if this is how you are labeled now, this is how you will always be. Don't get stuck in that mindset. If something in your life isn't working, think of how you can change it. Be actively productive in ensuring a better future for yourself, don't dwell in the past or even dwell on the negatives of the present just look forward. Don't expect things to happen.
